Ok well I havent been wit my husband for like a month already. or more..ne ways I already slept wit someone else and like them..i Dont want another relationship. BUt theres times my husband will come over to see our daughter and hell want sex, i dont want to no more at all. i already told him that I dont love him like before. So should I feel guilty....oh yea and I kicked him out the house cause I couldnt take all his crap of drinking and drugs anymore with my daughter..?
2006-09-20 12:27:53 · 27 answers · asked by Steph. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Feel guilty!? He** no! You should feel proud of yourself! Remember, you left him for a reason...why let him degrade you by talking you into sleeping with him? And you don't need someone around who is drinking and using drugs around your daughter. That's never good! Take it from one with experience. Just take care of yourself and your daughter.
2006-09-20 12:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only feel guilty if you are allowing him to degrade you. Kick his but out for good. Don't let him use you are mess up your daughters life. Find someplace you can go and be with the company of friends or family when he visits the child. Don't be alone with him. Having sex with him after he has been with someone else is putting your life in danger. He may have all kinds of diseases. Also make him clean up his act if he wants to continue to see his daughter. I wish you and your daughter the best.
2006-09-20 19:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by wildndblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving him is the best thing you could do for yourself and Daughter but don't make the same mistake again, now that you are a mother try to make good decision when it comes to men cause remember eventually they will want to interact with her and you want it to be positive and fun. So, No don't feel guilty for sleeping with someone else. Hope you protected your self. Take care and good luck.
2006-09-20 19:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by devika h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't changed then you shouldn't feel guilty about kicking him out. I would feel guilty about sleeping with someone else. It's only been a month or so since you've been split and you have a daughter to think about. I don't know your situation, and I can't judge you. If you're questioning whether you should feel guilty, then your conscience is obviously saying something.
2006-09-20 19:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should feel guilty. You need to move on with your life and find someone suitable to take care of your daughter. She needs to be your number 1 priority. Good Luck :) I know that this is a long hard road, but you are going down the right path :)
2006-09-20 19:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by fwog_fwog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope don`t feel guilty at all!! If he didn`t care enough to take care of you and your daughter when you were together then his problem!! Move on with your life and you can`t worry about what he thinks or feels anymore. Seems to me he didin`t if he was doing drugs around his child!! Live your life and take care of your kid and everything else will fall into place. You`ve earned it!!
2006-09-20 19:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by bren_jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For not wanting sex? Hell yes.
For putting up with drinking and drugs- Mostly assuredly, no
Kick the bum to the curb, don't look back and have the self-confidence and personal leadership to feel free to report the dog to the authorities.
2006-09-20 19:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by RHJ Cortez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship was not healthy to start with so there is no shame and no guilt is setting personal boundaries especially since you are required to protect your child from an environment that will harm her development. Sleeping with someone else so quickly also points out that you have other boundary issues, and oyu are bringing someone else into your daughters life....don`t do it.
2006-09-20 19:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by Therapist King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he cuming over to c ur daughter r f--k u? If u aint doing ur x, r have any desire to then don't give in. U split up for a reason and I bet that tha reason is still there even outside of tha sheets.No don't feel guilty for not giving it up to him if that is not what u wish to do.
2006-09-20 19:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by lifon_thedge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feel guilty about what...he was using in front of your daughter, so you kicked him out. You are not obligated to have sex with him if you don not want to. Your first responsibility is to your daughter, then yourself
2006-09-20 19:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋