Should I leave?

Question

My wife went back to her hometown and says she remet a guy she has incredible feelings for and wants to explore her feelings more, she tells me she loves me and only me but she emails him and now has started calling him when I am not home. Is this marriage doomed?

Answer 1

I would have to say yes its pretty much going to be over. Why would you let her go and meet another man and tell you she wants to explore her feelings...in other words she wants to go screw around on you. Dump her ***. Find someone that will respect you.

Answer 2

Your wife is exploring something new and exciting. DOES NOT make it right. The marriage is not doomed yet.
After many weeks people become habits to people. We get comfortable in our habits. And even though we sometimes break bad habits we never forget we had them. She is probably remembering the shoulda, woulda, couldas.....Reality check: it isn't, wasn't, and won't be. Like any girl, she's daydreaming "what if I hadn't married my husband and i had married the blast-from-the-past? I wonder if he always wears his shiny armor? hope his white horse likes me."
"What ifs" are tricky and should be handled at the time of thought so they never become a what if. She is acting on a childish "what if" from a long time ago. She especially shouldn't do that with that pretty little wedding band on her left hand. (You did give her a ring, right?!?) That is total disrespect for you as a person and complete disregard for you her til-death-do-us-part, her ball and chain, her other half, her man, her HUSBAND.

Nothing will come of her having this extracurricular relationship except divorce IF you both do not do something about this NOW. First of all, you Know she's cheating (yes, she is emotionally and psychologically cheating on you.) and you haven't done anything? If the roles were reversed and you were doing what she is, what would she do? How do you know she hasn't physically cheated on you? What attracted you to eachother to begin with? What has come between the two of you that she is seeking other forms of entertainment? Do you truly want this marriage to work? Are you both willing to make sacrifices and put forth effort into making it work? If not then here's your chance to say "see ya later!!"
Try and rekindle what you once had, that excitement of when you first started getting to know eachothers minds and bodies. try and get out of the regular everyday bump and grind. Try and listen to her. sit and have a heart to heart with no anger, no hurt, no emotions (hire a mediator if need be. do not ask a friend. they do end up taking sides). hear and listen to what each is saying. You may find out that this could all be stopped in its tracks right away if you put forth the effort to listen to one another. But you know what is best for you. Follow your natural, animal, god given instinct and you will do what is best. If there's kids involved then you Both need to do what best for them.

Answer 3

there are rules in marriage...emailing the opposite gender is just like calling them...if it is not business...there should be no contacting the opposite gender and even when it is business one should be careful not to chat about other things than business. The Internet can be removed from your home for a while...you can take the modem to a storage facility and say your having it fixed...it is fixing this problem...so that would not be a lie now would it? Sure that means you would have to do without for a while but it is time to put such frivolous things as the Internet aside for now...If she is doing it on her job...send all the employees an anonymous message telling them their email goes through the main office and is viewed by the boss...and he is going to terminate some of the idiots who misuse their time on the job by sending personal emails...that should put a halt to it for a little while! Maybe just enough time for her to realize what she has with you or do something dumb like meet the guy somewhere...then fella you will have your answer. Some things are just worth fighting for....and when you fight a woman you have to get creative....for words are meaningless here with your situation...I usually try to give some Godly advice but this is too hard....and if your marriage is worth saving you perhaps need to do something out of the ordinary to save it!

Answer 4

Dont leave. Put the foot down. Women need a man who can take control (not be a control freak)

You can go out and get another woman. Probably a younger, more beautiful one! Tell her you'll try to work on some things to spice up the marriage, including going to couples counseling. But tell her once she gets close to cheating, it's all over and you will NEVER see her as the same woman. And NEVER be with her again.

I never believed I would be attractive to another woman after my wife started falling in love with my best friend. I offered to try to change, and did. I went to counseling (with and without her). None of it worked. I wish I had just put my foot down and said "absolutely no contact, or hit the road *****".

now i'm divorced, broke, and living with a gorgeous model from Haiti who is taking care of me. I'm getting back on my feet, looking at a new career, and have got my wind back. Make her go all in on the bet!!! (btw: the model is still married, about to file for divorce, and decided to leave her husband for me when her marriage became miserable. When a woman has made up her mind to be romantic with someone new, it's over. Believe me. that's just how they work.

There are thousands of unhappy women out there that want a man like you. If your current wife doesn't appreciate you and you are really trying to be a decent guy, you need some good advice right now because you are about to get royally screwed by the courts... ask me how i know. they screw men because men work, and make money throughout their lives. women get old, wrinkly, and lonely (bitter.)

Answer 5

SO where fo you want your marriage to go? If its down the gurgler, then yes this is alright. If you want to get through this turburlence and avoid the rocks, then no its not alright. If she loves you, then what feelings are there to explore?? She has made a committment. That is what marriage is all about. Have a good look at the marriage, the pair of you. If necessary, get some help. Leaving though is so final. Is it not worth fighting for? What are your feelings for your wife? All the best with it, whatever way it goes

Answer 6

Its off to a pretty rocky start.

If you want to be with her then you need to play the game so she can quit the game. You set yourself up an account on a chat line, maybe myspace. www.myspace.com start talking to women on there and see how she feels about it when she finds out. Then if she trys to get loud, its not like you know the person and have feelings for them.

And depending on what she does next will give you your answer.

good luck and stay strong

Answer 7

I think that there is a pretty fair chance that seeing him again has started those feelings up again. You want to make her realise your are her husband not this first puppy love guy. Romance her, tease her, kiss her, make her realise and remember the reasons why she married you and not him!

If this doesn't work you don't want her to cheat on you. So if you suspect them doing more than phone calls and emails end it now.
Good luck! :)

Answer 8

The marriage isn't doomed, her behavior needs to be. Her feelings belong to her commited relationship. You need more than Yahoo Answers, get some counseling.

Answer 9

Doomed

Answer 10

hey im sorry for you
listen!!! if you love her grab this one by the balls and dont let go

talk to her TELL her how you feel shout at her
believe me she'll know
how hurt you really are
i mean she can't carry on like this
you my friend have feelings all men have
i mean what is it with some women
think they know men
ha ha ha thats a good one eh
i have been hurt in the past
but im happy now just trying to help
hope you do the right thing