well im not sure what to say, were both 22, went to highschool together, recently came across each other, online, and have been dating for almost two months, he is a sweetheart, but has been married before, and that marriage failed, due to his cheating ex wife, he also has a 3 year old daughter.
2006-09-20 12:20:20 · 18 answers · asked by Jamez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take your time. Don't rush into anything. Marriage is serious and it's a beautifull commitment you make to one another, and you don't want him to make the same mistake twice. Focus on one another right now, not marriage. I would take that commitment first within your relationship, at least a year. When you rush things in life, they don't turn out to be the way you one them to. Your both young, so give it time. If it's meant to be, than you will spend the rest of your life with him.
2006-09-20 12:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by sansan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 22 and have been dating for only 2 months. At this time, I wouldn't jump into marriage. If you really like him, tell him that you may want to get married in the future but, right now, you feel that you want to continue to dating and getting to know him better. You have your whole life ahead of you. Most marriages end because people don't know their spouses very well and they get married when they are to young. He has already been married once and it didn't last long so, he has a pattern of jumping into a relationship before getting to know what he really wants. He's ex cheated but usually there is something wrong with that relationship before someone cheats so, that just a symptom. I think it's better to delay getting married until you have been dating for at least 2 or 3 years. It's also best to live with someone first before you marry because when you live someone that's when you really get to know them. Good luck!
2006-09-20 19:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a very big responsibility and you don't wanna rush in. You are still very young, wait for some time before you jump in. Remember when you get married ,not only Brandon but also his daughter will become partly your responsibility. And most importantly , take into consideration how his earlier marriage failed. Weight all the pros and the cons before you actually decide.
2006-09-20 19:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by third_eye_blind0x0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if his ex wife cheated on him...at least it wasnt him that cheated on her,,(that you know of). He could have told you a lie for all you know. But if you love him then why not just keep getting to know him a little more before you think about marrying him. Is that what he even wants?? Take more time with him,dont rush into anything.
2006-09-20 19:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO DON'T MARRY HIM. Reason being, you still have a lot to learn about life. Due to that fact, you and him will be changing alot in your 20's. If it's meant to be then it will happen but later on in life. At least give it 4-5 years. Always remind yourself that if you are second thinking your desicion, that usual means your not 100 % and you should hold off
2006-09-20 19:28:46 · answer #5 · answered by Noah's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may be getting a little ahead of yourself, has he asked you to marry him? You guys have only been dating for a couple of months? How do you feel about being a step parent?
Love is so exciting, but take your time there is a child in this relationship who needs to be considered also. Take your time and enjoy yourself.
I wish you nothing but the best!
2006-09-21 16:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by Hollli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to be a mother? 2 months is too soon to make that sort of a decision. Continue seeing him if you are ready but keep in mind the emotional harm to the child should she become attached to you. She is too young to understand. In a year of real life dating you should have a better idea of what you want.
2006-09-20 21:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't consider marriage after 2 months. You might not be able to stand each other in 6 months. Give it time.
2006-09-20 19:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the name of God would you marry someone at 22?
And after two months of dating - c'mon, really!
SLOW DOWN!
FP
2006-09-20 19:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much baggage and you are too young to tie yourself down with a guy who is immature, a liar and makes bad decisions.
Set your bar a little higher sweetie
2006-09-20 19:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋