Here's your chance to put your thoughts down about this issue. Do you think they work?
2006-09-20 12:11:36 · 21 answers · asked by J.C. 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No. They don't.
2006-09-20 12:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I have to say that I think the question is phrased wrong. Yes there are open relationships that CAN and DO work. However, it is more of a case by case scenario, because it really depends on the PEOPLE involved in the open relationship. Each individual's personal standards, beliefs and needs determine if an open relationship works or not.
2006-09-20 22:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My experiance with them has been quite positive. My last boyfriend and I had an open relationship, and we broke up due to issues of time, distance, and different life places and directions. Our breakup had nothing to do with being open. We were together three years.
My girlfriend and I are about to celebrate two years together and we've always found it works fine. It allows us to be honest about our crushes, desires, and thoughts. There have been some small spats and jealous moments, but in the end, it is one of the things that makes our relationship stronger and more fun to be in. We are very serious, very committed, and we trust each other completely. We're talking about having children and getting married, and neither of us wants monogamy.
Having been in open relationships for so long, I couldn't imagine going back to restrictions and secrets in the name of some implausable ideal.
2006-09-20 23:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can---I've seen some VERY complex poly relationships!--- but it sure takes a lot of communication and hard work from all parties. Many people have a tough enough time making a primary relationship work, and when you add more people----more chances for problems.
A lot will depend on how motivated the folks are, and on their reasons for going into open relationships. If it's just casual lust.... not real likely that things are going to work too well overall, from what I've seen.
2006-09-20 19:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by samiracat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure, no problem. I am secure in myself, and that is enough for me. If I lose him to another, it was not meant to be. We have one go around in life, live it with gusto! Fidelity is a very straight idea. And it would seem that it is only the MEN who think the wife should be faithful. The men in marriages seem to be as big a cheat as anyone ... Big deal. Everyone feels like strange stuff now and then. WHy put boarders on it that will end up damaging or destroying what you have.
2006-09-20 22:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They can work if both partners can agree, and neither partner has a jealous streak. Also the partners have to be very much in agreement about the material side of things.
Furthermore I think this kind of relationship works better if the partners can sometimes share their other partners in a swapping or group situation.
2006-09-20 21:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the person and what they want. If both are agreeable to it , then yes. Personally I don't see how anyone has the time to carrry on with two people. How do you find enough time to devote that much energy to two people. Anyway, if they can manage it and both are happy in the realtionship, then it's great.
2006-09-20 19:20:49 · answer #7 · answered by The Tiki God 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes they do work.
Mine has been working for close to 18 years now, and I don't regret one thing about it.
As long as there is honesty and trust I see no problem with it at all.
It's when the lies come that problems begin.
2006-09-20 20:51:41 · answer #8 · answered by illusive_fantasiez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. First, because one of the two members will sooner or later break the rules of "just physical" and get involved with another guy, and second, because if you are playing around, then why commit and waste your time (and your partner's time)?
2006-09-21 01:00:47 · answer #9 · answered by Alex G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they can work. Its an open relationship..
2006-09-20 19:21:57 · answer #10 · answered by PROLADY 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For me they wouldn't work but for others maybe. It all depends on the relationship.
2006-09-21 09:03:27 · answer #11 · answered by Scully 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋