At times, I feel that it is hard, but I have to do it to move on in life.
It's sort of like freedom.
Freedom from anger, hurt and pain, obstacles that prevent you from accomplishing great things and building new relationships.
I have to remember this, even if someone has deeply hurt me.
I am divided at times when it comes to forgiveness.
2006-09-20 11:35:35 · 15 answers · asked by Mary C 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
its not always so easy to forgive others
but then if you know you can still trust them and still befriend them you got to put the past behind. Sometimes its easy to forgive someone because when the people has a nice big heart, they can forgive the person no matter what sin they commited.
Trisha =)
2006-09-20 11:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, it is a decision. I believe my bible when it says I must forgive or I cannot be forgiven so it is something I have decided to do. I have to make up my mind (whether I "feel" like it or not) to forgive. When I forgive it means I no longer hold it against that person. I will not dwell on it. I will not talk about it with others. I will not use it as an arguing point or keep bringing it up when I talk to them. I will not treat them differently because I am remembering they hurt me. It does not mean I will pretend it never happened because that would be foolish like when someone with a drinking problem steals the rent money. I wouldn't be mean to them or run around telling everyone or treat them differently in everyday life but I also wouldn't leave them in charge of any money. Once you get used to forgiving it becomes easier to do.
2006-09-20 18:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by twistedmouse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel like some of the things people do are hard to forgive them for. For example if someone shoots and kills one of your loved ones for no reason then you will be very angry at them and it is hard to forgive them. Somethings are easily forgiven but are hard to forget as well. Things always leave memories whether it is people or just situations. We have feelings. Sometimes it is hard because of the feelings the situations leave behind and not knowing how to handle them other than being angry. You have to think that God forgives you so you must forgive as well. I am sure you have done something wrong before and have been forgiven so think of it like the golden rule. You would want someone to forgive you for a mistake which is usually something stupid so you should forgive them.
2006-09-20 18:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by Miss T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it. If you let resentment build up inside..it will eat you up. If you get bit by a snake, do you show everyone your bite or do you clean it up and get the poison out?...forgive and get the anger out....think about it.
2006-09-20 18:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by Hawkeye 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Col 3:13
2006-09-20 18:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
we don't forgive for the other person's sake....we do it for ourselves..we must as bitterness can drain all the life out of us. We simply can't afford that drain in life. Try praying everyday for the people who have hurt you, because.....what doesn't kill you makes you a much better person with many lessons being learned by you......we need to thank God for adversity, so that we may continue to grow. (sounds good anyway....I do try)
2006-09-20 18:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by Cassie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. Forgiveness releases you from the burden of resentment and negative feelings that can eat away at you.
2006-09-20 18:43:27 · answer #7 · answered by The Gadfly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone said that your anger is like a red sweater - you have to wear it for a long time until it has a bunch of holes in it and it's all worn out, then you're ready to throw it away and then you might be ready to forgive.
That's how it is with me for some things.
2006-09-20 18:38:26 · answer #8 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
for me it's easier to forgive others then myself. while at times i blow or get upset at the immediate situation - once i've meditated on it or just gone for a walk to be alone (with God) even if i'm just walking with a mind cleared of the siutation - it dissipates - it goes to God - even if i don't offer it and then -- it's over, it's done. i think sometimes it's easier for me than for those that hurt me to deal with the fact -- i'm over it - sorry you didn't hurt me as much as you'd thought!
YSIC
2006-09-20 18:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by Marysia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving others is letting them go ang not carrying them with you throughout life, Forgive them and free yourself from them. Anger is punishing yourself for the deeds of others. let your thoughts be with those who have done you well and benefited you for they are proven friends. forgive and forget those who have done you evil, for they have proven that they are not worthy of you
2006-09-20 18:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by mindtelepathy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋