Has no relationship with the child but he pays child support monthly. Has not seen the child in a very long time. The child would like to see him, but he has no interrest. I have been to court twice and spent $$$$ and been in and out of mediation. Not working. I think the best thing would be termination, but how?
2006-09-20
11:10:28
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The money that I recieve goes into her college fund. I have a great job and can take of her all by myself. He chooses not to have anything to do with her. He has visitation with her through the court, but chooses not to practice it. I would in a heart beat give back all the $$$ to him!!!
In some ways I wish he did live far away!!
2006-09-20
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please think long term before you do anything. If he doesnt excesice his right why do you want them terminated?
In years to come the child might want to look him up for her own curiosity. Dont close this avenue to the child. The fact that he pays child support shows a degree of responsiblity on his part.
My mother did this and I still havnt forgiven her for the hate she instilled in my father towards us, yes we have forged a relationship as adults but it was hard going
2006-09-20 22:09:12
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answered by livachic2005 4
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Leave it alone! You are obviously upset and have not considered all of the possible scenarios. Just leave it alone. What will it accomplish by terminating his rights? You will be giving the bum an excuse when the child grows up and confronts him. Leave it alone. This way, he won't have an excuse. Accept the Child Support, which the child needs and you need. You will not accomplish anything positive by giving that jerk an excuse, believe me. Let the child know that the father lives very far away or that he's always working... keep the child from feeling unwanted, protect the child's emotions. YOU will be a bigger "hero" in your child's eyes in the future, believe me and you will have the child's loyalty and respect, not him. Some day, the father will regret his actions and he will only have himself to regret his actions.
I knew someone who was dating a married man. And I kept telling her, "It ain't right. He's a user and has done nothing but abandon one wife for another and now he's cheating on his second one which he got pregnant when she was a minor... he's a crumb who abandoned his child..." She didn't want to listen (he's now retired, he was a police officer) and one day they were walking around holding hands when a handsome guy on a bike got off the bike and yelled at him, "HEY, how are ya?" and the guy quickly went for his gun... the girl hid behind her boyfriend and the young guy said, "HOLD IT, man, it's me, Junior, your son..." A few days later, she broke up with him; she realized that this guy hadn't seen his kid in over 11 years while living about 15-20 minutes' away all these years. She told me that her "boyfriend" was embarrassed and looked ashamed...
2006-09-20 11:31:10
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answered by Anonymous
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Sounds like you have grounds to terminate his parental rights. However, you are collecting child support. Be aware that if you do have his rights terminated, then you CANNOT collect child support. You really need to think about this. Even if the child support is not needed to support your lifestyle, you could save it up and give it to your child when he/she starts college or something like that. I know it's difficult to see your child want a relationship with their father and the father is not participating in the child's life. But giving your child the gift of years of child support that has been saved up may help some of that pain in the future. Think long and hard about it because terminating his rights will be permanent.
Good Luck.
2006-09-20 11:28:37
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answered by LasVegasMomma 4
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The only way you can terminate parental rights is if he signs away his rights to the child. This would mean that the child support payments will stop. I would say maybe you are pushing too much. If he's paying child support, maybe he would see the child if you don't push so hard. I understand the child wants to see him but it's nothing you can do until he wants it too. Don't try to terminate his rights, in the end this will hurt the child more. I know you want what's best for the child.
2006-09-20 11:29:42
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answered by kitcat 6
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It's not abandonment if the parent is showing financial interest, which he is. I think the best thing to do is keep accepting the child support and tell your child that daddy has moved. I'm completely serious about that. There's no reason why your child should suffer thinking his father wants nothing to do with him...just tell your child that he moved away and it's impossible for a visitation to happen right now. Good Luck!
2006-09-20 11:15:00
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answered by Eric S 2
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Terminating your parental rights would not relieve you of your parental household initiatives. he will nevertheless ought to pay newborn help. Why do you're saying that he can no longer have a relationship along with his daughter? If he extremely desires to work out her and function unsupervised visitation, he can visit courtroom and get an order for such. He would not want to although, that's why he's making the lame excuse that the mummy won't enable him do something. it is not as much as the mummy although. the two mothers and fathers have equivalent rights to their toddlers. Your pal in simple terms would not want to work out his daughter.
2016-10-15 05:41:55
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answered by ? 4
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You can go to court and see if he will give up rights but you will not be receiving child support for the child either.
2006-09-20 11:14:26
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answered by bradosmom 3
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The court that makes him pay the child support should be able to point you in the right directions.. They know your case, and should have excellent suggestions for you.
2006-09-20 11:14:13
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answered by qn.harpy 2
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The father can fill out a form provided by the state relinquishing his rights. Keep in mind, by him giving up rights he is also relieved of paying child support. (at least in TX)
2006-09-20 11:30:19
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answered by heaven help me 3
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You have to get permission from the father. Abandonment doesn't apply if he is paying child support monthly.
2006-09-20 11:12:35
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answered by Jen G 6
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