its really no use.. dont bother telling me "girl hes a cheat hes a slimeball he doesnt deserve you".. i know all of that.. but i still have flashbacks to our happy times and want him back SOOO bad... im ready to just forgive the cheating (which was mild) and take him back... still, i know i cant.. i keep checking his online profiles and looking at pictures, etc.. and everytime a memory sneaks into my head, i am in love with him all over again..
i packed up everything that reminded me of him, i waited three months now to be over it, and nothing has worked...
how do i stop this and get over it?
2006-09-20 11:06:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
to sedrick: thats exactly what im saying.. i try but i physically CANT stop myself from looking at his profiles and pictures. and i know the once a cheater always a cheater thing..ive packed up the stuff.. thats what im asking.. how else can i get over it?
2006-09-20 11:11:37 · update #1
When you begin to feel like nothing works just remember how humiliating it is to be cheated on. Then get angry with him by remembering any little thing he did to annoy you while you were dating him. And, don't say all the times were happy because you know they weren't.
Get together with friends and start goin g out to meet new guys.
Do you think he's wasting emotional energy thinking aboout you? I doubt it!
The best revenge in situations like this is to do better with the next guy so that he knows how happy you are and thankful that you don't have to worry about trust issues anymore...
2006-09-20 11:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to find someone new. It's not easy to get over not being with someone you love anymore. You have to not think about taking him back unless you'll willing to have it happen all over again. Try to get involved with a group setting where you meet a lot of new people (religious groups, or join something that will allow you to meet new guys). How about giving it all a break for awhile and doing some volunteering with others. That will take your mind off of your own problems real quickly and it will be helping others too. There are many volunteer opportunities out there. You can start with www.rmhc.org and see if there are any of these in your area. Good Luck!!!!
2006-09-20 18:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by PROUDJEW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that happens sometimes. But THINK about what you give, and what you get. Do not give someone else that kind of power over you. Take the time to generate your own values measures, and then associate with people that have the same values and likes and dislikes as you. To dwell over this jerk is to weaken yourself. Be who you are, and expect and demand the things that matter to you, and also reciprocate the same to others. The truth is, you only dwell on him because you feel sorry for yourself. That is okay for a day, but then get over it. When you get a little older and a little wiser you will look back and laugh at yourself, with wisdom under your belt.
2006-09-20 18:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by iso1of1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will take care of it. Three months isn't very long and if he meant a lot to you--it might take a while. I divorced my husband of 18 years for cheating-I tried that "forgiveness" thing but he wouldn't stop seeing her. It took a long time--a couple of years, but one day I realized it (and he) just didn't matter that much anymore. We have 2 kids together, so I still have to see him occasionally, and yes, I remember when it was good between us, but, because of all the bad stuff-I can put it all in the past-where it belongs. In retrospect, I should thank him, because our marriage hadn't been good for either one of us for a long time and I'm happier now than I have been in at least 10 years, maybe longer.
go out with friends, go places you won't see him or be reminded of him--embrace the rest of your life.
2006-09-20 18:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you haven't been living together, because it would make a big difference in the answer I would give. Dating is unofficially that period of time you get to personally know someone you think is hot. If that is the case, he has a right to shop around. How did you find out? Did he voluntarily tell you? If so, maybe he realized he wanted you more than her. If he confessed because someone told you, he may still be truly sorry. Has he tried to contact you since the breakup? If not, you will be making a mistake if he comes back.
2006-09-20 18:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by T C 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go out and sleep with 4 guys and tell him how does that feel? you be over it by then.
now just do it!!
consider that an order from LORD GOD TODD who sums to A just based on this true=2018215=19=10=1=A. So LORD GOD TODD=TRUE when all things are summed up. Go out now and find new men. don't be held down by one loser. cause they are all losers.
loser=6
hells angels=6
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winner=B=b
See a T hidden over the two D's and a . representing the o? So the WINNER=B which when put together as 1 is T.DD and b=DI. stitched together ie IIII I .
So yes I AM that T.DD with a c.ld black heart symbolized as . with a IIII I stitched together wrist that is LORD GOD TODD=true and i personally give you my permission to screw with any male you like not related to you. Your free by Me.
1st worship no God but Me.
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Go have fun just don';t be shy and be safe.
2006-09-20 18:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO me a favor. Can you two just go 4 a coke your treat and talk? SEND him a note. MAKE a date. IF he dont call you dont persist. Then if he dose call you have a talk. EVEN that's no sign things will work out. BUT you will see then if you should move on. YOU will never know till you try. REMEMBER if he dont contact you back move on. good luck i wish u all the best.
2006-09-20 18:12:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He cheated, if he'll do it once he'll do it again. erase anything that reminds you of him. stop looking at his profiles and move on. Distance and time are the only things that will work
2006-09-20 18:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by sedrick a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is hard but you must move on. Find someone to replace him in your heart. Some lucky guy out there deserves that special spot in your life.
2006-09-20 18:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God! Quit snivelling and get over it. Every time you cry "Oooohhh...I can't. I miss him" and crap like that you just lower your dignity even more. What's the matter with you!? Have you no pride?
Get a life for God's sake. You think you're the only one that had a lousy relationship?
Grow up or go back to him and be miserable.
2006-09-20 18:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋