I have recently been contacted by one of my ex-boyfriends that I have had feelings for 11 years. I have been in a very committed relationship for 6 years and never cheated on my boyfriend, but when my EX and I met for the first time in 11 years, we had strong feelings for eachother all over again. I never thought I would ever cheat on my boyfriend who has been amazing and has given me so much. He truly loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I have felt the same way for 6 years, but now I am not so sure. Am I feeling infatuation for my EX? Or is this real love that I had hidden for so long? My current boyfriend is my security, and I feel so comfortable with him. I don't want to lose him, but at the same time I never thought my Ex and I would have a chance and I want to be with him too.
2006-09-20 11:04:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's very possible to love two people at the same time. It's also hazardous.
Stick with your current boyfriend. You yourself call him amazing, say he's given you so much, he truly loves you and so forth. What on earth would possess you to throw that away, just for a relationship that might not even last three months?
Furthermore, there's a reason why your ex is your ex. Something didn't work out between you.
In any case, you owe it to both guys to make your decision and stick with it. If you're crazy enough to dump your current boyfriend, then be honest about it and end your relationship. Don't cheat on him and string him along.
2006-09-20 11:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to love two people at once. I have been there. I went the direction that you are thinking about and ended up losing the man that I really did love. What you are feeling is a case of "I wonder what could have been.." If you have to wonder that, it probably is not the right thing to do. You are in love with your current boyfriend who has been there for you for 6 years. Do not make the mistake. Chances are there will be three of you very hurt if you decide to take the "just one time to see if it is still there" chance.
2006-09-20 18:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can love two people at the same time, but you can't be with two people at the same time.
You said it yourself..."I felt the same way for 6 years but now I am not so sure." What you got with your current boyfriend is great, so why would you throw it all away?
Think about it this way? How would you feel if the same thing happened to your current boyfriend and he wants to get back with his ex and leave you even though you guys were in a great relationship?
2006-09-20 18:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by everfair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to love two people. However it is not right to be with these two at the same time. I get feelings when I see my exes, but would never act upon them, because I remind myself why i am not with them anymore. People evolve and move on, sometimes we may have unresolved issues with an ex, talk about them, but don't experiment with them to find out.
2006-09-20 18:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by italian4smiles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is cool but the Ex can not receive the same love as you are giving your current mate.....It should become a form of brother to sister love or vice versa.......So yes you can possess love for that Ex but a love of what it was as a memory that says thanks for the Love we once had !
2006-09-20 18:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by Zayne P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It is possible to love two people at the same time. the hard part is that you have to choose one to give yourself to 100%. You have to decide who it is that you feel can best makes you happy.
2006-09-20 18:08:36 · answer #6 · answered by muttsrbest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very possible.
2006-09-20 18:05:24 · answer #7 · answered by IDNTGIVASHT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋