i am amrried to a mid eastern man for 9 years. he went to visit his family back home for 2 months. i wanted to go, but i couldn't because of the business we have. he just got back and he seems different, he wants to move back home, whatever his plans are, i feel they will not be with me. we have no kids so it is easy for him. he doesn't seem happy to see me. i waited and counted the days he would come back. worked hard for him while he was gone. he came across some opportunities in business overseas, and now hw doesn't seem to care about what is here, me included. i don't know if he found another girl back there. if i try to ask questions he will be mad. there is no wat to confront or talk to him. i love him and i don't know what to do. please dont give me rude answers, this is serious. thank you
2006-09-20 10:57:00 · 14 answers · asked by mercedes1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let your conscience be your guide and be true to yourself. You can't work the marriage alone so your decision is upon your own.
2006-09-20 11:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by skawp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is ok if you make him mad! Either he loves you or he doesn't. Either he has committed adultry or he hasn't. You have a right to ask...if he gets mad...so what...he legally can't hurt you. YOU have to ask him if he wants a divorce, and that you would be happy to let him go if he has another woman waiting for him. Because you want him to be happy and that you see that he's not the same man you married since he returned. But on the other hand perhaps he doesn't truly want to go back to his country...perhaps he is just torn due to family ties. And the stress
is too much for him and you should just not ask him anything and ggive him room. If you are a Christian...it is time to practice your faith that God will lead you to do the best thing...and if your not a Christian...then there is not much hope, or purpose for anything...certainly not the marriage God has intended for you! I can't help you really...Only God can help you and I pray right now that He does!
2006-09-20 12:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are married to him, It is both your lives. If you ask him a question about plans that concern the lives of you and he, he should answer them without being angry with you. You have a right to know. How much did you know about him before you married him? What is his home country? What is his culture, tradition and religion? What does he practice and believe in? Maybe you should use your computer to do some research if you do not know all the answers...Is he abusive? Do you trust him? If you do not, or you think he is giving you reasons to be careful or suspicious--Do not go. I know of some stories of women who been through some nasty situations when leaving their own country to go with their husband of a different nationality in a different country. At least you do not have kids.
2006-09-20 11:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very possible he hasn't been quite happy for a while, and this trip simply cemented the decision in his mind. I don't think his change of heart had to do with the trip per se, I feel that the reason he was even looking for opportunities on this trip had to do with his prior dissatisfaction. What he was not happy about, I don't know. Could be your relationship, or some sort of a midlife crisis. I don't know what you can do other than giving it some time and trying to find out from him whether or not he values your marriage.
2006-09-20 11:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Evidently the man u married is a stranger to you. If you haven't met his family or visited his home place then you might be unaware of his customs to the treatment of women. You need to get informed before you make a decision. Ask a question on here to see if there are any women from his country. ask for serious answers. Look up all you can on his homeland. Get informed for your safety.
2006-09-20 11:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by gormom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not the place to get advice like this. We don't know enough information. Talk to him. Ask him your questions. Bring his religion into it. See if the religion has counseling options. Find out if he's with another woman. Find out why he wants to leave. Do the woman thing: tell him you feel like he doesn't love you or care about you (lots of tears). Let him know how you feel about him: how much you love him and how you've tried to show it. Ask him if he knows how you feel through your actions and how you treat him. Ask him if it's your fault. Ask him if he feels the way you do. And most importantly, don't make a decision to leave him based on anything anyone is writing here! You obviously love him. Find out the truth first.
2006-09-20 11:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by edwardnprice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you aware that in Middle eastern countries women are treated like second...no third...class citizens? Have you looked into this? Better not go. You're property. Period. Sound harsh? Sorry lady-jane.....it's the truth.
Same goes for Armenians, Turks and all those border countries too. Also...you 'confront" him and you're asking for more trouble. I hope you don't consider this rude. I know 3 women who made the same error you did (marrying middle easterners and one an armenian). Nothing but grief. You are female and have no say...despite being American/Eurpoean.
Take my advice....beat it and get out while you can. Good luck...seriously.
2006-09-20 11:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if you have some soul searching to do. First ask yourself are you willing to leave everything you have here? Is he worth it, since you have a feelling that he will go anyway? Love is patient, so maybe a break wouldn't be bad? Good luck I hope you the best!!!Let Freedom Ring!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-20 11:07:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now I understand your question history.
This guy is middle eastern, you have no rights in his eyes and if you move to his country you will be treated like a dog. Women have no rights under their laws.
Get out and leave now. I am so happy to hear you don't have children.
You must leave him now and yes, this is serious.
2006-09-20 11:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by Martin M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, sorry but i have to say: he found another woman and a new life. it's idiotic to leave you and not give you a reason. get a good lawyer and deal the the heart ache. this is what i see from the third person point of view.
2006-09-20 11:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by harmony 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋