Sorry I'm new at this, My boyfriend isn't the only problem in this story as to why I want to move. Let me explain:He has a lot to with why I want to go, He smokes, He doesn't have any sence of inthusiasm and he is the biggest momma's boy.She pays his truck ins. and cell phone bill and he works with his parents.He never wants to help watch our son and I can only work sertain hours which sux for me because his money is his and mine mine and that was his disision.I have just had enough his mom tried to take over roll as mommy when our son was born up untill now she is still trying to buy his love.I just don't know what to do but that is why I was asking about moving to another state if I'de get in trouble because if I tell him where I'm going he will stock me and I'm scared he might do something crazy and he has threatened to kill himself,what should I do?
2006-09-20 10:52:09 · 9 answers · asked by ///\oo/\\\ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i agree w/ the 1st answer!!
for 1, the "I'll kill myself" crap is his way of controlling you AND making you hate yourself at the same time. If you fall for that trick, you will only have YOU to blame.
2) he won't EVER grow up because HIS MOTHER DOESN'T WANT HIM TO!!
3) you have NOTHING in writing that's keeping you tied there because YOU ARE NOT MARRIED to him. (you can thank God for that - and you should!!)
4) you CAN'T get in trouble for taking YOUR child and leaving because (1) YOU are the Mommy, and (2) NO ONE has filed for custody!
so,
~LEAVE his lazy behind with his pathetic Mama, move to a state that has awsome child support laws, and sue him for custody & support!!
and next time - watch out for warning signs!!!
2006-09-20 11:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by Kitten2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u are not married I donot believe anything can be done to you legally. I would actually look into the laws of your state because they do vary from state to state. The reason I say this is because if you two have been together for a certain amount of time they may see you two as being married under the common law rule but I am not sure. Ask someone when you are out by yourself somewhere. A law enforcement officer or someone of legal status. If not the only thing would be to leave as soon as possble and get somewhere safe and donot tell anyone you donot feel you can trust. The mother may try to hire a detective or something if she is that controlling but legally if you are not married and common law does not apply there is nothing nobody can do.Please be safe and be careful ,o.k...I had a momma's boy once and after 6 years it never changed for me either. I beggefd and tried to get him to move from behind where his mother lived and he did not. Everytime his mother snapped her fingers he jumped. I can understand loving your mother but not to the point of her paying all your bills and running your life especially for someone who has a child of his own. Get out sweetheart because I don't think he's ready for the responsibility of a child or a family of his own.
2006-09-20 18:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by copperfish310 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness I thought for a second I was reading my life story. Do you have family that will help you out, if so get the help of your family. If not, get the help of your friends that are not associated with him. You will need help, believe me you will, if not for finacial, emotional. Beings that you are not married you will not have the whole divorcing thing to have to go throught but the custody will be an issue. He will try to get you back, if he wants you or if he wants to hurt you, he will try to get you through the child. Be strong and use all your help and your support system that you set up. You can not do it alone. Even though you think you might be able to. I was there and I would not have been able to do it without my family and wonderful friends. You will find out who your true friends are during this time. Do not let him or his Mommy manipulate you anymore. BE STRONG for yourself and your Child!! Good luck to you....Take the first step and Breathe....then be strong and find a place to take the baby steps to move away from him and his Mummy Dearest. Once a mummy's boy always a mummy's boy!!! They do not change.
God Bless you
HS
2006-09-20 18:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by FarmersDghter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out, dont be intimitated by his threats to kill himself....let him do it. Ask yourself a few simple questions,do you love him, will he change,will his mom stop interfering,you cant be tied to someone just because they will do something crazy. Leave him to his parents,they sound as if they deserve each other. Get out there,sort your life out and meet a nice guy who will appreciate you....god i sound like an agony aunt, i normally root for the guy,but not in this case..good luck !!
2006-09-20 18:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by johnboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
zoinks! too bad you cant turn back time... but i cant tell you what to do but my advice would be to leave him but make sure you do it right because of the child.. after all he still is the babys dad but unfortunately hes a nut job seek some professional legal advice about that because he is mentally unstable and you dont want him or his mom to get custody of your child, good luck honey, and God bless :-)
2006-09-20 17:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by chris w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The killing himself stuff is rubbish,its a control thing-just leave with your son and leave your b/f with his family,you will be ok once you get sorted out.
2006-09-20 18:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave his *** to his mother.... go somewhere and be happy with your son. You know what is best for you and your son and obviously this is not it... roll out
2006-09-20 17:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this area is for married and divorce people, not boyfriend and girlfriend.
2006-09-20 18:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by carzone28 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him and give him a rope....
2006-09-20 17:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by ndmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋