My b/f was convited in 1999 for incest. He has already served his time in jail and we are hoping to have a family. i need to know if the state can take away our chilren if we decided to have them.
2006-09-20 10:49:06 · 23 answers · asked by JessiLynn 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I'm sure the laws vary from state to state, but I'm fairly sure you'll be allowed to keep your future children. Consulting a lawyer is probably your best bet.
2006-09-20 10:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by genenj1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I sure as hell hope the state can. There's NO WAY a resgistered sex offender should be allowed to have children (especially since he was convicted of incest). What exactly is going through your mind? Why would you want kids with this guy? Rarely do people actually change. Keep that in mind and find a decent, respectable man who's not a sex offender.
2006-09-20 10:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by Lucy_Fir 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Scenario: You have first hand knowledge your boyfriend is a
registered offender. The both of you start a family.
Next thing you know, your child begins to behave
strangely. But, you ignore this strange precocious
behavior.
Someone from the outside notice the signs of sexual
abuse. Child services come in to investigate the
allegations. Not only will your boyfriend get arrested.
You will be arrested as an accessory to sexual abuse,
neglect, etc.
Now, imagine yourself incarcerated with a bunch of
angry females. Do you want a daily a**kicking,
because you chose not to protect your child? You
will have a criminal record and there is a possibility
you may have to register as a sex offender.
Look around! The majority of society, do frown on child neglect and there are others, who will react violently.
Therefore, I suggest you seek assistance and regain your self-esteem. You need to focus your attention elsewhere.
2006-09-20 11:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by SLOWTHINKER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think legally the children would not be able to be in his presence alone. You might be able to keep the children by yourself. If there was a even remote possibility that he could touch your children, would you even consider. I don't know the details of the incident. You call it incest. Was this with his own children? Younger sister where he was 18 and she was 15? Not sure if that would make a difference in the court. I would consult a lawyer and ask to be safe for your children.
2006-09-20 11:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to choose another "boyfriend." Someone who has been jailed for incest is not a quality person. Why would you want to take a chance of endangering your children's lives in the future. You can do a lot better than this loser.
2006-09-20 10:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by Sue F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, if someone has reason to believe that he may perpetrate again they can remove the children. Experience talking tells me that maybe 1% would I ever trust not to molest again. I would never leave my child with anyone who has molested. A friend of mine has lost her children just on SUSPITION her man was a perpetrator. DHR or the courts should have made it clear the future expectations to him about being around children somewhere it IS on paper. I also though have a friend who HAS his children he had molested in the past. It all depends on what the courts/DHR found. Good luck BECAREFUL
2006-09-21 04:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by s m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let me ask you this. Why would you want to start a life with someone who was convicted of a sex crime and raise children with him? Are you willing to put your own children's health and well-being in jeopardy? I'm sure your b/f was "sorry" he got caught, but he is what he is - a sex offender. You need to move on with your life, and he shouldn't be any part of it.
2006-09-20 11:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by Chris E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I'm not really sure. I'm sure they could if they felt like the children were in danger of him doing it. But then again, I don't think so. He has already served his time and probably, hopefully, learned his lesson. Everybody deserves a second chance. They only way they would take them away is if the kids complain about their daddy touching them. Otherwise, they should be able to stay with you.
2006-09-20 10:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by C-Baby 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
1. Pick a better guy.
2. The state can take children out of "harmful" environments. If he has repented then there is no worry.
3. Pick a better guy.
2006-09-20 10:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just to add to the chorus. Be VERY careful. There are studies that show that sex offenders NEVER stop their offenses. Have an escape plan in place.
2006-09-20 11:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋