My boyfriend asked me to marry him, but I think he may be joking...He says things like I'm his soulmate and he wants to be with me forever. I don't know what his intentions are. I am with him all the time and I'm afraid I'm too needy. People say I'm codependent and have to have everything my way and that I need people to define me...so I don't know if it's a good idea. What do you think?
2006-09-20 10:46:03 · 18 answers · asked by strawberrylemonadecupcake 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The old saying "two halfs becoming a whole" or "you complete me " is CRAP! If you are not complete in you individuality and comfortable in your own skin then the marriage will NEVER last.
2006-09-20 10:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by teenypurplebinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need not be with him or anyone until you know who you are and what you want out of life and a guy especially getting married. If you think he is not being truthful with you when he says he wants to marry you and you are his soul mate then you have no confidence in your self , him, or the relationship. Define your self to you. being codependent id not good in any relationship especially marriage.you need to have an open talk with your self and find out who and what you are and what you want out of life.. before you go any further......
2006-09-20 18:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the question the answer is NO, don't marry him. Also it sounds like you are asking us now to tell you what to do. Getting married is the singlemost important decision in your life. You should know in your heart, mind, and soul that he is the one before you marry him.
You don't sound confident enough in yourself and your own decisions right now to marry anyone.
Also, it's odd you said you think he might be joking. Guys usually don't just jokingly say they want to marry somebody. I would take him at his word, and I would tell him you are not ready. Good luck to you.
2006-09-20 18:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by longhorn fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a HUGE step. If you are not ready for it or if this is not the person whom you want to spend the rest of your LIFE with, then don't do it. Think about it REALLY well now, cause after that legal/religious ceremony is done divorce is a horrible thing!
Good luck.
2006-09-20 17:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is fairly obvious what his intentions are,but you need to stand on your own two feet,think for yourself,not be so codependant on others.
2006-09-20 17:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you shoud marry him not all guys are going to come foward and say that he feels like u r his soulmate. You will be surprised how when u get married that you HAVE to work together. I say GO for it. and GOOD LUCK to ya in the future
2006-09-20 17:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you are ready, you know it, and if you are not--you know it too. It does not matter what I think because I really don't know you (I just read your your whole question and everything I know about you was from you telling me about who you are), you know yourself better than anybody. Just ask yourself, "Am I ready to spend The Rest of my Life with somebody? Am I ready to let him spend the rest of His life with Me?"
2006-09-20 17:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by Christa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot of self discovery to do. Try taking it slower with your boyfriend and find something new to do with yourself (eg. book club, learn to fence or sail or shoot gun, take 2nd job something you really enjoy, travel to Europe, or volunteer). Take a slice of freedom while you are young, 'unattached', and searching and find/do something that'll be a part of you forever.
2006-09-20 17:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by Applecore782 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you even suspect he might be joking about such a thing - you're with the wrong guy.
2006-09-20 18:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that question. Listen to your heart. If there are any doubts, the you need to think longer.
2006-09-20 17:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋