he wanted me to have an abortion and i would not now he has left me heartbroken what should i do
2006-09-20 10:42:39 · 18 answers · asked by sadandlonely 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The only thing you can do...have to baby and get on with your life! You'll be better off without him anyway!! If he left you because you didn't want to have an abortion, then that's his loss and you shouldn't be with him (or need him) anyway!! I think it's wonderful that you stood up for what you believe in and didn't give in just because your boyfriend wanted you to have an abortion! You made the right decision! Good luck with everything and I hope your baby is very healthy!! Congratulations...
2006-09-20 10:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by krazy_gal04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want some info from experience? I am a single mother of beautiful 1 yr old boy. I didnt know i was pergnant with him before i left his dad but, i knew he wouldnt make a very good father cause he was into drugs..so....continuing on....I found out i was pregnant again about 10 wks. ago. I told my bf at the time whom already had 2 kids from prev/ marriage. At first he didnt say anything just showed he was in dismall about the whole thing. So i didnt say anything. About a week passed and i started asking him about it and he told me he would make a claim with his homeowners insurance to get the money to pay for the abortion. I refused. He was not going to take away the life of my child. I later found out i had actually concieved twins.....LOL...amazingly i havent heard from him since LMFAO. He is totally screwed financially and just dont want the responsibilty of another baby. But, he is really going to have financial troubles when he starts paying child support on 2 babies. It is hard being a single mother but, you can do it! I have survived a year with my son alone so can you.....Right now you may not have any feelings at all for the baby and you may even be wishing you wasnt pregnant and thats totally normal! Just want you to know i never thought i could love someone so much and i think about my little man all day long. I regret ever getting myself involved with someone who could be such an *** but, never have i thought that about my son nor the twins that are thriving off of me like little damn parasites LOL im kidding! Being a mother is and has been the biggest joy of my life!
2006-09-20 17:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by baby_gurl_3778 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you should be happy!!
I am sorry to hear that you are heartbroken, but trust me. I was with my sons father during my pregnancy and wish everyday that I would have left him when I had originally wanted to.
You will be fine on your own. There are more people out there to support you than what you realize right now. It is better this way. I would have rather been alone and pregnant than to be with the one who was afraid to touch my belly. It made me feel terrible!!
2006-09-20 17:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by jbmiller06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heartbroken. ? what should you do ? get over it LIVE! the best way u know how . he just showed u that he will never b a man . i know it may hurt in your heart but honey you are now living for your baby . NOT for yourself. it takes a strong woman to raise a child on her own but it is possible. i pray that you find it in your heart to forgive him and raise this child to be a better person than the person you layed down with . you can do this girl your family will be there for you no matter what. good luck and God bless. jay bird
2006-09-20 18:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jay Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl u dont need a man to survive..He left u ...be gone and dont come back...he aint worth it!!! I know it hurts ..but dont need that bull **** from him. Abortion is not the solution...Talk to your mom..or sister ..im sure they will help u and guide u during this storm. Dont do anything stupid, its not the babies fault remember that and he or she deserves a chance to live. He obviously wanted one thing and u know that now. Unfortunately u found out the hard way. There are alot of single moms out there that have succeeded in life without a man. So u dont need a man to live. U are worth more than that. U can suceed by yourself!!! try it...
2006-09-20 17:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by shakalitious2000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look on the bright side your about to start feeling your baby move inside you it is the strangest feeling. What ever you do please don't have an abortion. At 15 weeks the baby has nerves and would feel all of the pain of an abortion it would be torture.
2006-09-24 19:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question for you: Does your parents know that you are pregnant? If so, that's your support factor. Its disappointing to know that at this age you are pregnant, but no one is perfect. You must stay healthy for you and the baby, because worrying about somethings you can't change, will cause more heartache and pain for you. If your parents aren't aware, then now is the time to share this news. Keep your head up sweety, everything will be okay.
2006-09-20 18:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by faythful4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray and ask God for the strength to do what you have to do for yourself and the baby. You ought to be commended for not going through with and owning up to your responsibility. I was raised by a single mother and she did a great job taking care of me. Sure times are going to be hard but you can make it. Don't let stress stop you from being as healthy as you need to be for the baby. Eat well, don't miss a dr. appt, and pray. It's your b/f's loss and your gain sweetheart! He may or may not return but all the love you have for him, send that energy to the life inside of you and the love that baby has for you, you'll have a lifetime of happiness! No one can break that bond! Be strong, you're in my prayers!
2006-09-20 17:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by Jazzminesmommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how you feel and you have my sympthay the week i found out i was pregnant my boyfriend told me he was seeing another girl and then tried to comit sucide saying he wasnt ready to be a daddy and by the way my baby was planned!
but thats men for you never know how to react but just keep your head up doll no your feeling rotten but the best thing you can do is relax and pamper yourself
im not condoning what he has done in any way shape or form but men will be men i dont no how things will turn out for you but im now living happly with my baby and his daddy believe me when you see your baby for the first time it wont matter weather you have him or not because i guarentee you will never even have come close to loving him as much as you'll love your child
best of luck with everything doll i hope everything works out for you x
2006-09-20 17:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by boosbecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need him hun i have two girls 1 is 4 and the other is 3 i am 21 i split from my bloke 3 yrs ago and i was so scared didn't think i could cope but to b honest i have never been happier i have a new man in my life we are trying for another baby and are planing a wedding and there i was thinking i will never find anyone else as i had two children
2006-09-20 17:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋