Why is it i do one right thing which is be honest to my parents im gay and they dont like it they dont hold against me but they just look negative whenever i mention anything regarding it ?
what is the big deal about that thing called GAY ?
2006-09-20 10:37:04 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First: congratulations for coming out! That must have b een very difficult and somewhat stressful for you.
Do you think that your parents may just need some time to get used to the idea?
I'll bet that is what they need, especially since you mention that they don't hold it against you.
Perhaps your feelings are predicated upon your being insecure about having told them that you are gay and so you may be imagining the negativity that is simply their getting used to hearing you mention anything regarding it.
Don't fret. They will come around... you are their son and they love you. They just need to get used to the idea.
2006-09-20 10:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a lesbian (granted I think men are hot - I just don't want to do a damn thing with them besides look at them)- I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
Being gay has a bad press because people think it's unnatural or against god's will and while they focus on this, they forget that the bible also states that things like working on a saturday, and eating prawns or rabbit is wrong. ( http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=leviticus+11 ) Sometimes parents are resistant to it because they hope for grandchildren, or a continuation to the family line - I've seen this happen before sadly.
Whatever happens, you need to be true to yourself and make yourself happy. Okay, being a good son should be important to you as well but your life is your own and no one else should be living it for you. If mentioning being gay makes them feel awkward, give them time to accept it and come around to the fact that you prefer the same sex.
(Also, I love it when I'm told someday I'll meet a man who'll change my mind and that I'll forget all about this silly fad. I've been talking to/meeting with a girl for six years now and I'm more in love with her than ever - it was she who made me realise I was looking in all the wrong places.)
In short, I don't know what the big deal is. We're not hurting anyone, we're just as human as the rest of them, so why the big deal?
Hopefully as the children of the world are taught more tolerance, I hope, this may one day become a thing of the past. I hope it does, or I don't hold out much hope for the human race.
2006-09-21 06:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by the_darksquall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dont let anyone make you bad about feeling gay, there is nothing wrong with being gay, your parents might find it hard at first but give them time and they will be ok, The word gay only means u like someone of the same sex, it doesnt mean u have changed as a person , ur still the guy u wud be if u were straight, ignore people that say its against nature coz its not, everything is nature so therefore so is gay otherwise man wouldnt have created the term, be happy with urself and dont let anyone get u down, your still u, wour female friends shud be happy u can help tham with guys! :p
2006-09-20 10:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by vicky s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents always have this fantasy about their kids growing up, getting married and presenting them with grandchildren. So when a son or daughter announces they are gay -- the big bubble bursts. Aside from this, homosexuality is not greeted with open arms in our regressive societies. People just don't understand that being gay is not a "choice" or a "lifestyle" as some people would like to believe, but that if you're gay, you're born that way and that's who you are.
There's nothing bad about being gay -- it's just that you're part of a minority and not part of the mainstream, so you're automatically targeted for prejudice. Parents are upset at first, but eventually they get over it and will accept you and your partner if you have one. I think they also have the terrible thought in their minds that being gay automatically leads to having AIDS. While this is prevalent among gays and straights alike who have unprotected sex, it isn't necessarily a given. If you use protection and remain monogamous -- both you and your partner, AIDS or HIV is not an issue.
Be patient with your parents. They have a lot of issues to sort through, but they are still your parents, and they love you no matter what happens. They'll come around eventually. You'll see. Good luck!
2006-09-20 10:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent I can only say honestly that if my son confessed to being gay I would be dissapointed. I would still love him as my son and continue to do all I could to help him and his partner, but in all honesty it wouldn't be what I had hoped and dreamed of him becoming. I don't think there is anything wrong with people choosing their sexuality and I am sure in years to come it will become the 'norm' and gay people will just fade into the background, but for now, there are still a lot of people who find it difficult to come to terms with, eventually, this Era will die out and the next generation will be accepting because they know no different. It's good you felt you could be honest with your folk, give them time and don't expect miracles, I have 2 of each and would feel exactly the same as your parents whether it was the boys or girls who came to tell me they were gay. I would never deny them love of their chosen partner or from myself, but acceptance would be a little more difficult for me and I would need time to see they were indeed happy together.
2006-09-20 10:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by pottydotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with being gay ... we are all different that's what makes this world the way it is .... I'm glad you told your family that took alot of courage they will be OK in time ..most parents think about there kids growing up and having a family of there own it never enters there head that there son or daughter could be gay .... ( i have two kids of my own ) but i hope that if they turn out to be gay that i can still treat them as i did before as they will still be the same ppl just love there own sex
2006-09-20 10:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by carol p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventhough I am straight,
I personally dont see anything wrong with it, but your parents might not like the idea of the fact that you are gay. Maybe they are trying to deny the fact that you are gay or something. Just give them time and I am sure they will learn to accept it. If they love you then they will have to accept it right!? So yeah. I wish you the best of luck with this and I hope that your parents will accept you for who you are in the near future.
2006-09-20 10:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by Katie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU are very brave to let your parents know who you are...and they are probably in shock cause they couldnt see it...i would say that they just need time to adjust some parents are still living back in the day and they just dont think its right for what ever fears were pushed on them when they were younger...change is hard and they just got slaped in the face with it...so give it some time and maybe see if in a week try to talk to them about it again...some ppl never really come to terms with it but some take linger then others ...best of luck to you and stuff...ttyl
2006-09-20 10:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by mytedominatrix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with it at all, its just other peoples small minds that cant accept it. Im not a lesbian or bi but know loads of ppl who r gay and lesbians, i dont see the big deal...
p.s u should just play the song `i an what i am` frm the queer as folk album VERY loudly!!!
2006-09-20 10:45:24 · answer #9 · answered by Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being gay isn't so much a state of being. It's a sexual orientation, therefore it has absolutely nothing to do with being in love. In humanity heteralsexuality is the default sexual orientation. Homosexuality is a man-made sexual orientation, meaning that having sex with the same gender was made up. And heck might as well say that the purpose of sex all together has been modified anyways, which makes same gender sex more wrong.
2006-09-20 19:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by musician2004@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋