We have been off and on for the most part of our relationship. I love the woman 2 death and would do anything 4 her just as i believe she would for me. We have had trust issues in the past about her lying to me about being on birth control. I put it in the past and kept moving. a few months ago she told me she was pregnant. We had been having unprotected sex while she was on birth control. i had a feeling she was lying but couldnt prove it. she swore up and down that she was taking he pills regularly and that she had just became pregnant while on birth control. i was still suspicious. At the first doctor appointment we found out that she was 3 1/4 months pregnant. I had a chance to speak with the doctor privately and when i told her about the previous situation she checked my x's history @ kaiser and saw she never had a perscription for the birth control. I was furious. My x said the doctor was lying? she lied to me everyday for a month and a half and now finally told the truth. help!
2006-09-20 10:35:54 · 10 answers · asked by dtaydeon5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dang this question is not easily answerable for me. I know that some girls think that the way to keep a man is to get pregnant but that is not a happy life. Men get trapped in situations that they weren't ready to be in. You may love her but the fact is that it is not a good relationship that why you refer to her as your x so adamently. Which creates the resentment factor. You resent the fact that you trusted her and she lied and you resent the fact that you were with her so long and constantly had the same problems (breaking up and making up). You may even resent the fact that she is pregnant but if she does have the baby it is not the baby fault. I know that you are a good person and you wouldn't resent the baby. But I don't think that her methods were right that wasn't a good way to try to keep u even if you do decide to go back with her for the baby. A baby doesn't solve problems that were already in the realtionship. It create a bond betweenn the parents through that child. But it doesn't make a relationship better.
But really you didn't ask a question there really is nothing you can do to change the facts. She pregnant and either you going to have a baby or not. Then you have to decide if you going be with her or not. It is all on you. You can't point finger. Dang this is big man you got to make some choices.
2006-09-20 16:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by sheyjj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 04:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by Harrison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what is your question? You said yourself you suspected she might not be telling the truth so if you chose to not wear a condom then welcome to the party, you drove yourself there. Its a little too late to be thinking about what to do now. You have been playing stupid games with this girl and this relationship for 5 years, thats what you get for being halfway in something. You used her for what you wanted...you got it and don't try to say you didn't. You play the fiddle you gotta dance so start dancing daddy!! The whole problem you have had throughout this relationship is not being a grown up and not handling things maturely...you had to know that sooner or later you would get burned? You played russian roulette and got the bullet. I suggest you focus now on growing up in a big hurry and being a great dad , the baby had nothing to do with the stupid games either of you played and can not be held responsible for them.
And thats all aside from the fact that the dr had no business giving out her medical information and she can sue the pants off of him for that and that many women get their birth control from family planning centers or clinics, its much cheaper there. But none of that is relevant. So what really, it doesn't change your current situation, quit whining about how it happened, it takes two to tango and you were tangoing just leaving all the responsibility of it up to her. Deal with where you are now, its not going away.
2006-09-20 10:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the point of the relationship if you can't even trust each other. my advice is that you break up with her(you don't have to follow my advice if you don't feel like it's right) because if you can't trust her about the birth control pills, then what else can happen 2 or 3 years from now. she broke your trust, i think you should do something about it. but then again, it would be hard because she's pregnant and she might think the only reason you're breaking up with her is because she got pregnant and you don't want to take responsibility. i'm sure that's what she'll think. so..think about it good. but if i were you, i'd break up with her and tell her how you couldn't trust her anymore.
2006-09-20 10:41:26 · answer #4 · answered by iloveducks_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first thing that i learned it always protect your self no matter what the other person is using for protection...because it just makes more sence ...you cover your ***... there is not much that you can do accept for ask your self do you really want to be with someone who has disrespected you and lied to you it seems like you dont have a trust in her any more...and its true she could have gone somewhere else for the medications...there is nothing you can do about the baby accept for prepare your self finacially and emotionally...another tip that i just want to give you is that being with the mother just because you want to because of the baby rarley ever works out...
2006-09-20 11:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by mytedominatrix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happened to my friend of mine, the girl is a psycho! she lied about taking birth control, now my friend ended up having twin boys, supporting her a** and paying child support. he became depressed, broke, worked his a** off and not be able to enjoy his money.
how could she not now that she's pregnant? usually when a girl is pregnant, she'd missed her period. seems like she already know about it, but wait for 3 months to tell u that she's pregnant so she wouldn't be able to get an abortion. right now, you're screwed... you have to support the baby.
2006-09-20 10:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by Tartlettes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she had a different doc for her script. and why is that doc giving out her personal info! thats unethical. you need to make a choice and now a child is on the way. u stayed with her this long for a reason. get her some counciling for the compulsive lying if u 2 want to have a shot for that baby.
2006-09-20 10:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by psychpath64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what the doctor did was unethical.
I don't think you can do anything. You suspected she was lying but had unprotected sex with her? That's just crazy. Seriously. Best of luck to you, but sounds like she trapped you with a pregnancy.
2006-09-20 10:39:11 · answer #8 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 05:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well be there for the baby my ex was the same way he was always lieing to me tell her that if she cant be true cant be with her and if she really loves u shell stop
2006-09-20 10:39:59 · answer #10 · answered by Brenda A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋