Can previous masterbation ease the pain of losing your virginity?

Question

I mean as in frequent masterbation, way before actually having sex. I also mean girls virginity, no one cares about boys' virginity.

Answer 1

What pain of loosing virginity?

One of the main causes for pain during sex for the first time comes down to not being physically ready, because we live in a world in which sex is thought of as the way males enjoy sex, in other words penis to vagina penetration, this ignores women's needs during sex.

Only around 30% of women orgasm from penetrative sex alone, women's bodies are not made to be stimulated by penetration alone as our clitorises are for most the basis for physical sexual arousal that are often not stimulated by penetrative sex. A woman needs to be aroused to have sex, the same as with men, only because women can physically have sex without being aroused then arousal is often overlooked. When aroused a woman's vagina lengthens, the walls become more relaxed so to allow for penetration, lubrication is produced, the clitoris becomes swollen and hard, and the labia become swollen, as well as other factors – without this arousal sex can very easily be painful.

The problem is that a lot of people are in their teens when they loose their virginity so not fully aware of their body both in terms of lack of education and lack of understanding of sex and their bodies, thus not aware how important arousal is, for many when a girl or woman is wet it is a green go sign for penetration, this is far from the case. Ideally before sex masturbation should take place as well as other forms of sex, yes masturbation is sex, such as oral sex, touching and so on, in a perfect world a girl or woman would reach orgasm prior to penetration – it takes a while for a woman to orgasm to begin with but gets easier, men are the opposite as it takes them a short time to begin with and longer as it goes on.

One of the main reasons why a girl loosing her virginity may experience pain is simply because her body is not physically ready for penetration, often because she or her partners are unaware of what her body needs in order for easy penetration.

This is also where fear comes in, girls and women, just as boys and men, may be nervous about their first time having sex with a partner this is normal, however if a girl or woman is actually scared - for example if a girl is having sex because she feels pressured to do so, not actually willing to have sex - this is different. If a girl is actually scared as well as not enjoying it so lessening arousal making penetration more difficult (not impossible, girls will also eventually become aroused to a point – for example many female rape victims will have their vagina relax and lubricate or even reach orgasm during an attack, it's the vagina's self-defence mechanism as well as simply the result of arousal even when forced).

With all that said then, masturbation prior to sex will of course lessen the pain of penetration, if we are talking in terms of masturbation long before loosing ones virginity that is more complicated again...

The vagina is stretchy, some people will say using toys or fingers to penetrate the vagina during masturbation will 'stretch' the vagina, this is nonsense, yes the vagina will stretch during arousal but it will not stay that way, the vagina goes back to it's original size.

The hymen is another factor when it comes to pain from loosing ones virginity, if the girl masturbates in such a way as to penetrate herself either with fingers or objects then the hymen can become broken or stretched, thus not becoming broken or stretched during the first time having penetrative penis to vaginal sex. That said however the hymen is only one factor, a girl is just as likely to experience pleasure when her hymen breaks, or even no feeling at all.

Masturbation however is sex, it can be sex with or without a partner, it allows both the girl and her partner to learn about what arouses her, this helps prevent pain when she does finally have penetrative sex in that it helps her know how to get to the point where her body is physically ready for penetration.

People care just as much about boys virginity as girls, the idea that they don't is sexist and insensitive to boys feelings about their first time and sex after that time.

Answer 2

Personally i find it quite a bit harder to climax when i'm drunk, and remembering the whole thing is tough either way. If its the pain you're worried about you're just not ready for sex, Pain is a passing neuron transmission, one that you apearntly consider to be more important than remembering the first time you experiance the greatest link you will have with another human being... Plan one: get drunk, loose virginity, forget all about it Plan two (my best so far): Take your curling iron (make sure it's unplugged), grease it up with some astroglide and ram that thing on home. if you have a fairly large partner you can repeat this several times over using a speculum to seperate your vaginal canal farther to accomidate him. Sure, you wont enjoy being tight and feeling him within you wholy and submit yourself to the greatest union you'll ever know but...it wont hurt as bad (b/c thats what matters to you.)

Answer 3

do you mean external masturbation, or real penetrating masturbation. If you used a dildo or vibrator vaginally in masturbation, your hymen will have been broken already. The #1 way to make sure losing your virginity does not hurt is to use lubricant and have a patient, caring partner. And use birth control!!

Answer 4

The pain of intercourse is caused by the hymen (a bit of skin that partially covers the entrance to the vagina) being torn the first time you have sex. If the hymen is already broken then the pain and bleeding will be less.

Masturbation with a dildo may tear the hymen but otherwise normal masturbation is unlikley to have the same effect.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

depends if the masturbation was penetrative, if it was then yes maybe. horse riding and other physical sports can break your hymen which is what can cause the pain of sex, along with being nervous, not enough lubrication or a big willy

Answer 7

masterbation wont ease pain of losing your virginity.. if you mean pain as in real pain you shouldnt experience any pain when you loose your virginity.. its supposed to be a magical experience if you wait until the time is right...

Answer 8

circumcision doesn't help either as the extra skin helps in lubricating this area as well as keeping both locked in during sex.

Answer 9

Yes, masturbating can ease the pain of losing your virginity -- if you use a huge dildo.

Answer 10

depends upon the number of fingers u used