I know a girl who was divorced in December and starting dating her guy friend in Feb. They were friends for 7 years and went out in groups just as friends. They lived states apart. They seem like a great couple, but how long does it take to get over divorce. Her husband didn't want kids and fell out of love with her. Her marrige was rocky for about 3 years and she was married for 7. What do you think?
2006-09-20 10:30:58 · 20 answers · asked by Dori 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try very hard u can get ur ecpecting thing in a short term,dont be hurry ,do as easy as possible
2006-09-20 10:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time after a divorce can be an ideal growing experience. Use it well -- take time to get to know yourself better. Read books -- meditate -- and get comfortable in your own skin. My advice is to stay single until you feel comfortable and happy as a single person. Then when you do start to date -- you won't have an air of desperation or loneliness, clingy-ness.... you'll have a solid, confident character to offer to someone else. A divorce can be like a car wreck -- very damaging to the emotional body -- and the damage needs the time and spiritual nurturing to heal. You may not even realize what hurts until months later -- so take the time to be alone. It's scary at first -- but buckle down and learn to embrace it -- you will come out a stronger person for doing it.
Jumping into another relationship after a divorce will only delay the inevitable task at hand -- getting to know yourself.
2006-09-20 10:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by tallcreative1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that would be too early to start dating again (you know, "on the rebound") but then again she may have been unhappy with her marriage for a long time before she actually got divorced.
Be careful you do not become an "emotional step-up" for someone, take a LONG time to really know her and what she wants out of life. Divorce is a nasty thing that can hurt people really bad.
Good luck!
2006-09-20 10:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is probably just fine. The hardest part is that first few months... but since she knew this other guy for a long time... it's better.
It's up to how quickly she processes emotions... some people take years, while others just a few months...
I think its really a case by case situation and the other thing is if she is making a mistake now... she will figure it out... life is learning...
I'm sure she is fine though... just a sense I get.
2006-09-20 10:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by Use my Yahoo! Avatar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is up to the person==I waited a couple of years-some people divorce for different reasons and mine took some healing others don't. Just be careful not to fall back into the samething you left--remember the grass is always greener on the other side untill you get there.
2006-09-20 10:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by THTH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no rules when it comes to how long a divorced person should wait before they start dating again. They should start when they feel they are ready.
2006-09-20 10:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by worldwise1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the time most people get divorced, they're ready to meet someone different. Don't call it a date. Labels don't simplify anything.
2006-09-20 10:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person really. If the marriage was rocky, then more then likely her feelings faded over time. If your heart isn't in to it anymore, then it doesn't usually have any trouble with moving on.
2006-09-20 15:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by pregyfrog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they say 3 months for every year? I think that's just a general guideline.
People are different though, she just needs to be aware that it's possible she breaks this guys heart if it's a rebound thing.
2006-09-20 10:33:22 · answer #9 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set time frame for a person to be divorced to begin dating, its when THEY are ready they will begin dating.
I know you care for her but the best thing u can do for her is to just be there in whatever capacity she may need you in.
2006-09-20 10:35:26 · answer #10 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as when...in the case of your friend, she knew the guy and I am sure they enjoy each other company. If you find someone who is right for you, then go for it.
Ideally depending on the situation, you wait till you are ready and it's differnt for everyone.
2006-09-20 10:43:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋