2006-09-20 10:30:21 · 24 answers · asked by SANCY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been pondering this myself lately because I'm divorcing my wife of 20 years for chronic infidelity, drugs, and WORSE. I don't know the answer.
For me, I think it will be when I stop feeling discarded, used, and sick and start to feel like someone might actually be interested in me for me. How long will that take? Not sure.
Right now, I cannot imagine having anything but a platonic relationship with any woman.
FWIW.
2006-09-20 10:37:04 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can start dating as soon as you're separated... Legal divorce may take months or years nowadays. The "proper" amount of time would be the amount *you* are comfortable with, could be days, weeks, months; different for everyone.
2006-09-20 10:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are comfortable spending an evening without mentioning your ex you are ready. Some people are realized the marriage was over long before the papers were signed. Others stay in a sort of "mental marriage" for way too long. There really isn't one right answer on this.
2006-09-20 10:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no proper amount of time. It all depends on how quick you get over the divorce. And depends on how ready that you are to date. Noone can tell you when to date again.....Its whenever you are ready to.
2006-09-20 10:32:39 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say at least three months. Give yourself time to accept the divorce before starting another relationship.
2006-09-20 10:33:20 · answer #5 · answered by denise45_1999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever amount of time it takes for you to sort thorugh your feelings about the divorce, get the closure you need, and put any baggage safely away so it's not dragged into a future relationship.
When you feel you are ready (and not rebounding), then you've taken enough time.
2006-09-20 10:32:24 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard that you should wait half the length of the relationship, personally I waited about a year. But really it depends on when you feel it is right. You will feel it if it is to soon. If not than get out there and have some fun.
2006-09-20 10:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sippy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say one and half years to two years because all of us needs time to heal. If the new partner is in the picture a lot of anger will happen towards that new partner during the healing process. Good Luck
2006-09-20 10:34:50 · answer #8 · answered by Errolyn27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you feel ready, its not about any set standards. Once the divorce is final (and usually well before that) the relationship is over and done and you don't owe it any loyalty.
2006-09-20 10:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date when you feel comfortable. Don't get seriously involved until you feel like you are OK as yourself again. Wait until you don't think of yourself as half of a couple anymore.
2006-09-20 10:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋