im 14 and i dont wanna see my dad do i actually have to
2006-09-20 10:18:01 · 8 answers · asked by Brenda A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im 14 and i dont wanna see my dad do i actually have to hes cancels alot and he just thinks he can walk in and out of my life whenever he wants
2006-09-20 10:45:25 · update #1
Does he have joint custody or also joint physical custody. Duscuss this with your mom, tell her your concerns, At 14, the Court will take your wish in account to some extent.
2006-09-20 10:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The law gives your dad the right to see and spend time with you as long as you are a minor. The fact that he has joint custody means that the courts must consider him fit. If he is not an unfit parent why would you not want to see him? If it is a case of taking sides with one parent versus the other, I would advise against that. It is wrong for a child to take sides in a parental dispute. He probably loves you just as much as your mother does. Think about this!
2006-09-20 10:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by worldwise1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in your place, I'd write him this note: (Feel free to use it.)
Dear Dad,
I know that you have some joint custody of me. But it seems that many times I am sort of second on your list lately. Let's call a time-out for a year or so, for each of us to adjust to this situation. I'll be a little older, and so will you. I am not expecting you to respond to this letter. I'll call you next summer.
Thanks,
(Then sign your name)
This does two things: It lets him know that in the past, he has treated you inappropriately, and you didn't like it. And it puts you in control that you do wish to see him, just not for awhile. You are old enough to decide how you wish to spend your Saturday or Sunday afternoon. And apparently it is not waiting around for him to stand you up. After all, a date is a date, whether it is with your friends, or your dad.
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2006-09-20 11:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can go to court and tell the judge that you want to live with your mom permanently so that she can have full custody. trust me, it's done before..there was a case a few yrs ago where the child told the courts that he wanted to live with his mother.
Well, why don;t you want to see your dad? is he a nice dad? is he nice to you? if there is a problem don't you think you should tell your mom?
2006-09-20 10:46:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to you mom about the details of their custody agreement. If you refuse to see him it could put her in violation of a court order, she could (but may not) get in trouble for that. If you do not want to see him and you are 14 you shouldn't have to, but it may involve getting the court order changed. Can you just tell him you don't want to see him? Can she? Talk to your mom, tell her how you feel and give her the reasons why you dont' want to see him. Good luck to you!
2006-09-20 10:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maximum certainly. consult with a school counseler, they are going to touch the superb government and grant your father custody. i'm unsure, yet i think of you have the criminal good to choose for at 12..yet..abuse trumps it. in simple terms make constructive that's abuse and not an excuse because of the fact thats serious alegations and could reason alot of criminal and economic trouble if your mendacity
2016-10-15 05:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, here in the state of Texas, when a child turns 13 he/she can choose who they want to live with. You will have to check your state laws to see if you can revoke visitation with your dad!
2006-09-20 15:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by pregyfrog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do. You're still a kid. That means you still have to do what your parents said. The only time that will change is if your father can be shown that he's abusive toward you or that you're in an unsafe environment (like he's a druggie).
2006-09-20 10:42:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋