If there is a problem with the baby momma, should i deal with her directly or let my sig other handle it. At what point should i step in and voice my issues and concern with her. I feel like he should handle it and but i dont want to look like a push over without some sort of control. He seems to ignore or not be a man about it.
2006-09-20 10:14:01 · 8 answers · asked by !@#$$ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Girl Puh-LEASE!!!! WHY do you silly little girls keep insisting on hooking up with these shiftless, triflin' boys with all these kids and baby-mamma-drama going on? You obviously posted this question because you are looking for some advice, so here's some advice: GO FIND A REAL MAN WHO RESPECTS BOTH HIMSELF AND YOU, WHO HAS NO KIDS, NO BAGGAGE, NO DRAMA, AND NO ISSUES!!! Life is too short to waste on some loser who who can't get his sh*t together.
2006-09-20 10:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should always give him the opportunity to try and handle the situation. I would voice your concern in a caring and non confrontational way. If he doesn't feel capable handling his ex, just ask him if he minded you stepping up to the plate and getting things accomplished.
I speak more to my boyfriends ex-wife than he does. We make arrangements regarding the kids through each other and just notifiy him after the fact (we have custody of the kids the mother does not which gives us the upper hand where as I assume your significant other does not have custody)
2006-09-20 10:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad thing these situations are. You have the right to voice an opinion to HIM not the baby's mother. If he choose to listen to you and take your advise then fine. But he is not always going to do so and that is OK too. You have to remember it is their child. Most young girls that have children are more stuck on the guy then the kids, they want to cause the guy pain anyway they can. All it is , is them being immature and insecure.
2006-09-20 12:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are impossible to deal with, I know, my husband has a child with his ex-wife and it was nothing but drama. I always stood back and let him handle it because it was their child and their relationship, until the day she started causing us,as a couple, trouble, then she was stepping on my toes. As long as she isn't interfering with you and his relationship, then don't worry about her, just ignore ignorance. He knows who the better woman is.........just look, he is with you........good luck sweetie
2006-09-21 06:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by dixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if she threatens you or disrupts you. your sig. other should be man enough to deal with her without you co-signing or getting involved. they have a child together, not all 3 of you. if its bothering you that much and hes not doing anything about it you should evaluate your relationship. you can tell him all you want about the things you want done when dealing with her but hes not going to do anything unless he wants to. take care and good luck.
2006-09-20 10:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm going though the same thing but i stay out of it. i say just stay out of it but if she crosses the line then you have to put your foot down and if your man dont seem to care then you really have to have a talk with him and let him know how you feel about it
2006-09-20 10:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is mad at you because you left her and the baby. She feels that the world is on her shoulders and she has no help. You should have thought about all these things before making a baby
2006-09-20 10:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't bud in,,,let him grow up and handle he's own affairs....we look prettier when we're quiet!!
2006-09-20 10:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by guess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋