This is the hardest part in any relationship, especially a marriage. It started off good but now, the only communication between the two of you is arguments, the sound of their voice makes you wanna throw up and there's so much tension between you, you can chop it up with an ax. You know it must end but how can you tell them it's over? What's the best way?
2006-09-20 10:05:43 · 25 answers · asked by D-Wizzle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Use the words of the late, great Ray Charles:
Hit the rode, jack. And don't you come back no more, no more, no more, no more. Hit the road, Jack and don't you com back no more.
Try Martha and the Vandellas, also: Come and get these memories. Tell her to "GIVE THEM TO YOUR NEW LOVE!!!!!"
2006-09-20 10:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe a marriage should only be over if someone has cheated and you can not forgive it, or after you have tried ALL that you can--every single thing. Separation/Divorce should be a last resort. If it's one thing I know, it is that a lot of arguments in long term relationships are not even serious--most start over stupid or silly differences in opinion or minor things. Have you tried marriage counseling? They can help you communicate with each other and get to the bottom of the problem where all the tension stems from. Good luck however things turn out and I wish you the best no matter what.
2006-09-20 10:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by Christa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you are constantly fighting there is no need to worry about feelings being hurt. Why dont you end it since you are making the first move by acknowledging that this is a problem. obviously it's time to move and find someone that will make you h appy. You do it okay (smile) Now the only problem is the home. who gets what. but you are on top of things start putting **** in prospective RIGHT NOW.
2006-09-20 10:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the only communication is arguing and there's a lot of tension then it shouldn't be too hard.
Just ask the person if they think it's over. If they feel they way you do they will say yes.
Or you could open the conversation with something like, do you think we can keep going on like this.......
Good Luck
2006-09-20 10:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS remember: actions speak louder than words!
If there is a problem, it needs to be solved. Solve this problem without complications. When breaking up a relationship it is like an investigation, you have to back it up with facts
1rst ?-WHY?
tell that person why you don't want to be with them anymore, lay the information down to them nicely. No one wants to be hurt severely.
Well, I hope this works out okay. I wish you the best of luck!
2006-09-20 10:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by hearts101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am honor to answer this question,Here is my personal opinion from my short marriage of 25 years,I urge you to think it over and seek help from a marriage counselor or psychologist before you break up.Unfortunately,You do not give me much to analyze but I see you far away and I feel your Pain.Before you see a Professional I urge you to ask yourself; do you want to end or do you want to give his or her a chance.Now if you want to end then You need to get yourself prepare and educate.
Marriage,If you live in California the 50% of your asset belong to other partner.
Can you live by yourself after math,I mean divorce is dying from each other.
What about children and custody of a child?
What about child and spouse support in case yours are not working?
The impact from friends and family toward your Divorce or separation.
Now how much you have to pay the lawyer in case he or she does not want to compromise.We are talking about the third party to come in and help out.
To get it over it is very easy,You just tell a person "I am out of here and take whatever you want." You see the way I anlyze the situation from 5 sentences and You need cozy advices from your family and very very true friends before you take the action.Your gut will tell you if it is over and YOU DO NOT WANT TO TAKE IT ANYMORE.
2006-09-20 10:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by ryladie99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to take a trip out of town the two of you and see if ya'll reaction changes, but if it does'nt just talk to your spouse and them know the best thing for ya'll to do is give some time to each other, or just let them know that ya'll are hurting each other even more and if there's children your hurting them to. It better that ya'll talk to each other reather then being at each others throat.
2006-09-20 10:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by cat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just step out the back Jack,
make a new plan Stan,
no need to be coy, Roy.
Just set yourself free.
hop on the bus Gus,
ya don't need to discuss much,
just drop off the key, Lee.
Set yourself free.
2006-09-20 10:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way-just tell them it is over-what's the problem here?Most relationships start off good,but it is no use lying to yourself or your wife/hubby/partner,it is a lot easier just to front it out and tell them.If you are weak then just carry on the way you are going-if you are not weak then sort it.
2006-09-20 10:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, the sound of their voice makes you want to throw up?????
If you are married you need a lawyer, if its just a lover, say good bye, change your locks, your phone number, move, whatever it takes.
You will be so glad you did and ashamed you didn;t do it sooner
2006-09-20 10:15:41 · answer #10 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋