we have been together only for a year and a half, everythime he is mad he start screaming at me, and when something happens he just treats me like ... i love him, but sometimes i just want to break up, i dont deserve any of that, i always treat him well even if im mad i talk to him sweet, but i refuse to let go, what can i do to just let go on him without been so painful, i know he loves me but he is just like that...
2006-09-20 10:00:17 · 26 answers · asked by Gabs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You obviously have enough doubt in your mind wether or not you should leave him to get online and ask a bunch of strangers their opinion. That is the first step. You are right in knowing that you don't deserve it, and he should know it. If he doesn't, you need to go with your women's intuition (which is why GOD gave it to you) and make him step to the curb. There is nothing amusing about what he does, and if you continue to stay with him, who is to say that it won't go further than that with him actually punching you in his anger? You really have to think of that. Being "just like that" as you say isn't something that is healthy for you, and maybe even later on down the road, the children that you may bring into the relationship. You are a smart woman, I can tell by the way that you already know where this is headed. Don't become another statistic, just let him go. And as painful as it may be, it will not be as painful if it takes a turn for the inevitable one day. Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-09-20 10:12:06 · answer #1 · answered by pamalamadingdong_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he does not love you.. otherwise he'd respect you too. If you're not getting the treatment you deserve and YOU'VE TOLD HIM HOW YOU FEEL, then you need to move on. Don't settle for less than you deserve.
There really isn't anyway out of this without getting hurt, unless he hurts you so bad or make you angry enough where the sight of him makes you sick. If he's smart, he won't let your arguments get that far, giving him the safety net of feeling like you aren't going anywhere.
You've already said that you don't deserve being treated the way you do. Half your battle is won once you realize your worth. It's usually women who blame themselves for their man's behavior and treatment of them that there's a problem. All you need to do is find a way to replace the time you spent with him, doing something else. You can take a trip, take a class, have a casual fling- be honest in that situation though. The important thing is realizing that something have to be done. It won't at all be easy but it'll definately be worth it.
2006-09-20 17:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you answered your own question... "I DONT DESERVE ANY OF THAT" if you can't seem to be happy and if you are thinking about breaking up with him then you should maybe tell him that you can not be with him if he keeps being like he is being.. the only reason why you are asking this question is becuase there is some kind of attchment that you have to him that you do not want to let go... its been so long it feels like you are stuck... and it is kind of true... but nothing ever gets better no matter if he tells you he is going to chnage.... cause he will for a little bit then a few days later it will be the same ol' storry! k love ya and good luck!
2006-09-20 17:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by No 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love...
if it's truly love then yes remain with him
only if he continues treting you like that ask him to stop he should understand if he really loves you
some people can't control their tempers sometimes and it brings out the worst in them
if he still doesnt stop then seek help through an outside source not just counseling but something more physical and permanant talking is all good and well but it usually has no lasting effect
umm yeah
2006-09-20 17:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by i9a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is funny isn't it. Me and my boyfriend of almost a year have fights all the time. Over the smallest stupidest things and we yell and scream at each other and I still love him and he still loves me. You just need to work through your problems together. If he seems like he doesn't really want to work them out then it is time to end it. Good Luck! â¥
2006-09-20 17:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he treats YOU that way, imagine how he'll treat child. Would you want a child growing up seeing that or hearing that or FEELING that? LET GO. I have a very good feeling you are VERY young. Do not settle for a man like that.
2006-09-20 17:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by robinc1117 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has a bad temper and you should leave befor he gets to the point where he starts to hit you if he gets all mad at you like that for no reason then you should really think about if you want to be with this guy
2006-09-20 17:03:47 · answer #7 · answered by mija~chula 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree if you need to ask then the answer is probably Yes. If you dont want to then try telling him how you feel in a very stern but not mean tone.
2006-09-20 17:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Cein.
And you recognize you don't deserve to be screamed at. It really will break you down until you won't even recognize who you were before the relationship.
2006-09-20 17:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tolerate verbal abuse. Just because you are afraid of the heartbreak and have feelings for him doesn't mean you should tolerate his behavior. Tell him to get his act together or get out. Stand up for yourself and show some dignity
2006-09-20 17:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by Ann Ducketts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋