I’ve been talking to this guy online and on the phone but I’m married.
2006-09-20 09:57:33 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The thing is that by asking this question, a part of you must not be comfortable with the route this is going. Does your husband know that you are online and talking to this guy on the phone? Are there kids involved? Do you want to be where you are right now? And the biggest thing of all, are you looking somwhere else for the affection and attention that is lacking at home? You really need to answer these questions before you can consider anything else. Be honest with yourself, starting with the truth that if you haven't told your husband, why? If your gut is telling you that it isn't right to even be talking or e mailing, you really should go with your gut feeling. If you aren't happy, you really need to sit down and talk with your husband and let him know what is upsetting you and making you unhappy. And last but not least, if it is really bad, you should seek counseling if nothing else helps. I know being married can be lonely sometimes, and we all need friends, but the ones that we feel we have to keep a secret from our significant others are the ones that we should really be aware of. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-09-20 10:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by pamalamadingdong_1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes absolutely - one way you can know is this - if your spouse was doing exactly what you are doing, would you want them to be doing it? If the answer is no, you're cheating.
Also I would venture to say you are cheating yourself if you keep talking to this guy online and on the phone, because you have made a vow to your spouse and you are breaking it. You knew the answer to this question when you posted it.
If you are in an unhappy marriage, you need to address the issues there, and see if they can be resolved. If you absolutely cannot resolve those issues, then you need to get a divorce. Then once you are divorced, and have figured out the reasons why you got married to the wrong person and had to get divorced, then you can try to find the right person. But you owe it to yourself, your spouse, and your children if you have any, to break it off with this guy immediately. Good luck to you, and break it off!
2006-09-20 10:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by longhorn fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what kind of a person u are. My wife since I have know her gets along better with guys, so she always has guy friends. I usually know them and hang out sometimes, so she does not hide anything from me. If I meet a guy and get a weird vibe from him then I just tell her I don't like him and she will usually not hang out with them. I completelly trust her so do not worry. Plus if something did happen, well then I would take the good for the goose approach. Now if the thought of sex or u 2 have discussed it then yes u are almost in a cheating mode.
2006-09-20 10:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by erker34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you like it if your husband was doing it? An affair of the heart is still an affair. Don't believe me? Ask my two baby cousins ages 7 and 14 whose mother did the same thing and then left their father (who works over time so she can stay home AND bought her a new car) after 16 years of marriage.
If you and your husband are having issues, get some help. Get off the phone and get some REAL help. Your online guy only wants one thing. Can you guess?
2006-09-20 10:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by robinc1117 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends on what your talking about, if your having phone sex because your husband isn't giving it to you then I'd have to say yes. Eventhough I can understand you view point. You have someone at home thats not pay attention to you and this guy on the computer is hanging on every work you say, it's easy to get caught up in the drama of wanting attention and the desire to have someone just want you sexually. I do understand.
2006-09-20 10:37:32 · answer #5 · answered by captianpr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you guys talk about and if you plan on going out with this guy. But if you just talk to them on the phone and Internet it's not really cheating unless you and the other guy are serious.
2006-09-20 10:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by outlandishb13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married and there is more than just a friendly interest in this person...maybe. have you told your spouse? If you haven't you are on the borders of cheating... who's to say that you aren't planning on meeting this person in the future and that could lead to a hook up and then you would be cheating... not a good idea what you are doing... just my opinion.
2006-09-20 10:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what you are chatting above. A lot of people do not realize that person who discover their partners on line emotional and sexual affairs are often devastated. Their basic assumption of honesty and trust have been shattered because their commitment to exclusivity has been broken. As far as your husband is concerned there is a little difference between your sex on line and sex in seedy motel on interstate. The trauma is the same.
So stop it before is not to late.
2006-09-20 10:07:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about? Does your husband know? I think it's wrong. I wouldn't want my husband talking to women on line and on the phone like that. Esp if I didn't know. I wouldn't do it but the only person who can truly say if your cheating is you. None of us can do that for you.
2006-09-20 10:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in an unhappy marriage and "met someone" like this and just became friends. We ended up falling in love... (we didn't sleep together though)... I would never leave my husband for someone else... I thought that was immature and unrealistic...
what the relationship (with the new guy) showed me was that I had settled for my marriage all along... and my heart would never be satisfied with my husband. I couldn't fake it anymore... so I ended up breaking up with my husband and being alone for a while...
A few months later,
Me and new guy did end up getting together and have been together now a year and happy... we have ups and downs... but i am GLAD i ended my unhappy marriage first... took some time to myself... then got together with new man....
Just be careful...
Your ex may be very vindictive like mine was... he was pissed... I was honest...
I never slept with anyone... but I had to deal with my dissatisfied heart... couldn't deny it anymore.
2006-09-20 10:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by Use my Yahoo! Avatar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋