We have been dating for almost 4 years, we both have kids. The kids are like family and we are like roommates who MATE once a month if I am lucky. He is great with my kids but, we don't have much more in common. I feel that we do love eachother but I don't know if that is enough.
2006-09-20 09:51:35 · 22 answers · asked by JJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's something that you have to look inside you and figure out. You really don't want strangers to tell you how to or not to end something that you have invested in for four years. And personally, If I was him, I would not want anyone to base the ending of my relationship on the opinions of a bunch of people that you don't know.
2006-09-20 09:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by PUDDIN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you have made much of an effort to improve your relationship. If you and your significant other have different sexual needs, you need to find a common ground/compromise so that both are comfortable. Or, perhaps you hooked up with him solely because of your respective children and you now realize you have little in common as people. If that is the case, try to disentagle yourselves in such a way that the children don't feel abandoned or betrayed. That may require the help of a psychologist.
2006-09-20 16:58:24 · answer #2 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
If you both have children then you must not have time for yourself. I would have told you right off that the time to end the relationship was the minute you were asking yourself that question, but because you feel that you both love each other why not take one last approach to solving your problems. Make time for yourselves, go out to a nice candlelight dinner, and a movie once per week. Confront him with the sex issue, if he is not aware ther is a problem then he will remain the same.
Maybe get a makeover, and make yourself more attractive to him. Give it time, and if the dinner, movies, time alone maybe in a hotel does not work for both of you then it is time to give it up.
Best of luck to you and yours.
2006-09-20 17:03:55 · answer #3 · answered by samkimberly_peopleplace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tha answer to your question is never easy you have to ask yourself a few more questions before you make this decision because this is not just gonna affect you but also the kids and him..........have u and your mate discussed this,what will change is it convient,do i deserve better and am i happy with this situation as a whole.........your mom always said you can't make everyone else happy until you are...so sit back and think real hard because there is no easy answer to your question it mainly revolves around what you are felling day to day and asking yourself ........DO I DESERVE MORE?
2006-09-20 16:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just bored and he is too. There is a reason the two of you made a life with each other. You are in a rut doing the same thing over and over and over...housework, kids, jobs, cooking dishes, bedtime and then it starts all over the next day.
Change you routine and tell your honey he needs a break from teh routine. Plan a Saturday together or a date night with NO KIDS....
2006-09-20 17:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try counselling before calling it quits. You will always be connected by your kids. It could be runt you are going through (many people manage to work through this stage). Maybe you need a vacation together to loosen up the tension. Either way, make sure you talk to him about your concerns, but not in a blaming way--- just tell him what you would like out of the relationship, and ask him what he would like out of it, then make a plan and put it in place.
2006-09-20 16:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay friends, because if after such a long time he is like that this means there is no love between you too. You should remain friends for the children... But you should know that sometimes true love is hard to find
2006-09-20 16:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by ghost_in_red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow first off talk to him maybe he is thinking the same thing it might be lack of communication. Otherwise make the split easy so that the kids can still spend time together and you guys can still be friends.
2006-09-20 16:55:32 · answer #8 · answered by blue_dragoness5695 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you, whether or not you want to continue living this way or not. Are you happy? Have you talked to him about this? There are ways to bring fire back into the relationship, if this is something that you want. I guess decide if it's worth trying for, if it's not then maybe you want to consider getting out.
2006-09-20 16:55:20 · answer #9 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment is a two way street.You must be able to give more than you recieve.However if You do all the giving it will not work.It must be 90-10 both ways.
2006-09-20 17:01:13 · answer #10 · answered by jacko1944 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋