He was friends with my ex husband and I. His marriage was shabby as was mine. We got together. 10 years later, i've had enough. He started off financially separate. Now we have a shared account. This pays the bills and runs dry all the time. He has the money to pour into aviation. He has a glider and a small plane. I cant afford to join a gym or anything, but he can go to glider comps and stay in motels and eat out while he's there. I cracked the other night after years of telling him how I feel. Now he's not talking to me and I'm thinking of leaving. He is considerate the rest of the time but can't commit or tell me he loves me. I'm starting to feel like a needy leech. I think i'm only staying cause I cant afford to move on. What should I do?
2006-09-20 09:51:02 · 5 answers · asked by jewel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get yourself a seperate account - start putting a little savings in every week until you have enough to feel secure enough to leave him. A good relationship is 50/50 and he is only commiting half if he can go to these motels and not invite you to enjoy them with him - or he can't even pay for your gym membership... Whats going on with that? Take some of that money from the shared account and place it in your own private account (that he does not know about) and tell him - you payed the bills or he needsto put in more cause bills are piling up... and he needs to pench from his personal fun bag fund and step up as the man and take care of these bills. Sounds like you are the one suffering in this relationship and sounds to me like he is being selfish.
2006-09-20 10:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by Myzz Undastood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start searching he has money hiding some where else if he can do all those things and you can not afford 19.99 month at ballys then where is he getting all this motel money from,also he just treating you like that because he know your ex and he must don't trust you but, star saving some money on the side, his money any money he give you put in the bank and he do not need to know sound like he playing a game on you so he can come up , you better bet him to his game
2006-09-20 17:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by jemal m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have left a long time ago. He's sapping your self confidence as well as your money. Divide the finances. Let him know that you are hoping it will end the fighting, save up then leave.
2006-09-20 16:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out!! Learn a lesson - do not share a bank account with some dimwit you are shacking up with. Go on.
2006-09-20 17:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by robinc1117 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your own savings acct. and when you are ready leave. In the meantime hang in there! Good luck!
2006-09-20 17:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by Pildi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋