Is he gay?

Question

I have been married to my husband for 12 yrs. We had anal intercourse befor but, I do not like it. He knows and I asked him never to insist. Still he insists. Once I asked if he was gay and he did not even get upset.

Answer 1

mmh i dunno./. but you should probably talk to him about it. ... to make sure.. I mean if he is.. why waste anymore time..so go talk to him!!!

Answer 2

Just because someone asks if you are gay doens't mean you need to be upset. Also, many guys like anal intercourse because it is much more of an intense experience than vaginal sex. A guy who insists is not necessarily gay. If you don't like it, try turning the table on him. Tell him you will let him have anal sex, but only if you get to get out a dildo and use it on him first.

I have a friend who did that to her boyfriend, and needless to say he doesn't insist on anal sex very often. He knows that he has to have the same experience whenever he wants it.

Answer 3

Cat, it seems like you may have other inklings about his sexual preference if going to that extreme.

Some men just like anal sex. It is a very different sensation that vaginal intercourse. You guys have been married for 12 years. You should know him best.

Express to him in the most loving way your concerns about this act and really get candid about it. The experience may not have been that pleasurable; but lubricants help.

I understand if there is a moral issue here but it seems best to find the right opportunity to discuss his desires. After all, you are in a marriage, and if he can not come to you with his most innermost thoughts and desires, than whom?

Good Luck Cat!

Answer 4

I doubt he's gay. And it's a positive sign that he didn't get angry when you asked him about the possibility of being gay. Most closet homosexuals would freak out at the notion. The anal sex, is a fetish, going where no man has gone before.

Answer 5

He's not gay. Guys are just perverts like that. The reason why he keeps insisting is probably because you already let him do it once. He thinks that if he keeps nagging that you'll just do it so he'll shut up. Just ignore him or tell him that you are really bothered by it and would appreciate that he respect your feelings about the situation.

Answer 6

How ridiculous and stereotypical. Wake up, it is 2006 and heterosexual partners can also have and enjoy anal sex.....not just homosexuals. Your husband is not gay; he probably just wants to spice up your sex life and try something new.

Answer 7

Not necessarily gay, he could just have an anal fetish. I think that if he was gay and had gay thoughts than he would of gotten upset because he feels guilty. He probably just laughed at you asking that he was gay because it is not true. Therefore it does not make him gay

Answer 8

I suppose it’s possible he’s gay, but just him wanting to have anal sex doesn’t really make me think he’s definitely gay. I know a few of my friends said they’ve done it, so I guess its something guys might like. I would think he’s gay if he acts gay. Or if he likes gay porn or something like that.

Answer 9

if he was gay he would be doing it with a dude not u
i dont think hes gay , hes just want to try something new
and i guess if u didnt give it to him he would look for someone else to do it with , and u dont really want that to happen casue ever man need to fulfill his needs
sometimes we do things we dont like just to make the people we love happy , so just go along with him

Answer 10

i would say its not a gay thing as stated in another answer i would say its more of a fetish. its your body and your butthole and there for i would say tell him to screw himself if he can't get over the fact you're not into it and you aren't going to be into it ever. he probablly didn't get upset about the gay question because you guys have been married for so long that hes more than likely quite secure and comfortable about his hetrosexuality.

Answer 11

Try dressing up like Tom Cruise or Peter Jennings. If he gets a blue-veined throbber, then yes, he is gay.