Sometimes we walk out the closet, sometimes we fall out, but most all gay people come out at some point and get mixed reactions from whom they tell. Tell everyone about your "comming out" and if it was easy or hard and how that person reacted.
2006-09-20 09:34:32 · 15 answers · asked by J.C. 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I did a prat fall out of my closet.
I was terrified my family would not so much reject me, but at least have a huge argument over it. To my complete suprise they did exactly the opposite. They simply called me over to their house (I had my own place at the time) and my Mom and Dad sat me down and simply said "Duh, what took you so long?"
That threw me completely off guard. We had a good laugh over it and they've been wonderfully accepting and loving.
So, my trip out of the closet was a complete Prat Fall!
2006-09-20 09:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by DEATH 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I lived in an all male boarding school for 5 years in australia and in my 2nd last year there, I was 'thrown' out of the closet by someone i told. he managed to spread it to everyone over a weekend (and did it because he freaked out when i told him i liked him... ended up sleeping with him the year later!).
I was terrified at first at the thought of everyone knowing and that eventually the rest of the school would find out but in reality, what happened was really great. People accepted the fact and many of the guys told me that they respect the fact that I could come out and that I am still the same person. I guess I'm not really flamboyant or camp so I didn't 'threaten' the maleness of it all.
I actually became a prefect in my final year and it was a well known fact that i was gay and that really helped a lot of the younger kids to come out in the following year after i left without much happening to them. Some guys even came up to me after graduating and told me that they were proud about the fact that I came out... and these were the jocks of the lot!
On the other hand, my parents/family was a different and harder matter to deal with. My parents are still in denial (i'm 22) and i think they will be for a long long time. My mother does not agree with homosexuality at all and my dad pulled the whole 'try being normal' thing. So right now, i'm back in Malaysia and I'm out to all my friends here but in the closet when it comes to the workplace and my parents. my sisters know and are not that bothered with it. I guess another factor is that my family and extended family are pretty well known around these parts and the asian culture is all about upkeeping the family face or something like that.
But at the moment, i don't mind the situation too much apart from the fact that it's hard to hold down a boyfriend. But my friends here accept it and love me so i get a lot of support from them.
2006-09-21 04:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by zengie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of kicked the saloon doors open. I came out after telling me ex-wife I was gay and wanted a divorce. So I told everyone, and didn't give a gosh darn. Most of my family already suspected even though I was married, my real friends could have cared less and was glad to see me soo dang happy.
My mom was the only bible thumper at the time. However with some tough love on my part. She has come around. I hope someday she'll attend my wedding.
2006-09-20 16:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
1992: Before the internet there was the BBS. I found a gay BBS when I was 17 and ended up making friends with a couple local guys.
One night, after 1am, my mother came into the computer room and 'caught' me typing to one of my friends. I immediately turned the monitor off as I knew it was too personal for her to read.
She then started up with the questions:
mum: "Why are you avoiding the family? Who are these new friends of yours? Why won't you introduce us to them? Are you doing drugs? ....are you gay?"
me: "Yes."
mum: "This is a nightmare. The worst nightmare."
...Needless to say, I had a very tough time with it - my father and youngest (of 3) sister were suicidal. My mother confided in everyone; her friends and other family members. I was outed and it drove me away from my family...for over a decade.
They are still strong in their christian beliefs that homosexuality is wrong, yet - AND I AM SO THANKFUL FOR THIS - they made the effort to come to my wedding to celebrate the Love I share for my husband this past year.
My father is still very uncomfortable with my personal life, but my sisters and mother have been more tolerant and understanding.
It's not the happiest story, but it's what I've been dealt.
2006-09-20 18:25:59 · answer #4 · answered by Vancouver-snuggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My trip out of the closet was'nt all that bad, but it had it's moments. It was fairly easy for me to come out once i've made up my mind to come out. Everyone took it pretty well, but there are still some of my family members who's having trouble coming to terms with it. They thought after i had my child {I had him when i was 19} that i was'nt Bi, they knew all the time i was interested in both girls and guys. But i recently came out to them as being gay last year after my 50th birthday, the reaction i got was: We knew it all the time, we were just waiting for you to admit it.
2006-09-20 17:55:20 · answer #5 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was horrible. My family freaked. I would not wish my experience on anybody else, it was just that bad. That was in the late 60s, so of course things were different then. If you saw Brokeback Mountain, you could relate to the pressures of the time. To this day, my siblings and I have almost nothing to do with each other.
2006-09-20 17:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by SB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im still partialy in the closet I guess.. but the part of me that came out was a roll out sort to speak.. .I realy just let ppl figure it out for themselvs... I never realy hid it.. I was married for 14 years to a man... and I told him before I married him that I was a Lesbian but married him anyway because I wanted to have children and being in the south I thought that I had to get married... then when I decided I wasnt being authentic to my true self after 14 years I asked for a divorce and took the kids and now I am with my life partner and my children in our home and the kids spend weekends with their dad... so it was like pulling teeth on some part of it.. but I realy didnt even come out to my kids.. they just figured it out... and they are ok with it...
I know many ppl who say it was very hard and many who say it was very easy..
My mom knows and is best friends with my Partner.. but my dad still doesnt know but he lives 11hundred miles away.. so who knows how that will go...
2006-09-20 17:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by RiahWillow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A piece of cake once it got started. I never ran into anybody worthwhile who really seemed to care. And that's all I could ask for: acceptance whilst remaining the exact same person in others' eyes. A beautiful thing that I'm grateful for.
2006-09-21 09:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by emanmetal911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at the time I started, I didn't give a damn, any more, for what others thought. Hell raged awhile afterwards, but I'm over it. My attitude today. I'm out, loud, and proud.
2006-09-20 18:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by My Big Bear Ron 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't reach the keyboard over these towels to type a long answer.
2006-09-20 18:40:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋