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My cousin is Gay and she and her girlfriend decided to get married or whatever. My cousin knows I am a christian and I dont agree with those views but I love her all the same. I didnt go to her ceremony and she has been acting strange with me ever since. She knew I wasnt coming and why and she said she was ok with it and we just went on like nothing happened until now. What should I do??

2006-09-20 09:32:19 · 13 answers · asked by dreamgirl4myboy 4 in Society & Culture Other - Society & Culture

Actually Mrs Potts the Rainbow is Christian symbol that gays have adopted. In the bible it signifies our covenant with God Thanks!

2006-09-20 09:49:36 · update #1

I do love her a lot and we were very close before this but I refuse to apologize for what I believe. I have never judged her EVER. My beliefs are my own and I dont force them down anyones throat but I will not celebrate something I believe is against what God says. I just dont know how to get back the way we were without giving her a long speech that I know will make her feel bad. For all of you with negative comment how dare you criticize me when you are making unfounded judgements????

2006-09-20 09:56:21 · update #2

Wow Matt who put vasaline on your dildo I dont hate anyone and can you refrain from name calling it is very childish!

2006-09-20 10:01:44 · update #3

I dont know I have never been invited to one I wont go against my beliefs for anyone so probably not! I would probably go to a Catholic wedding though we believe almost the same. It really is different though.

2006-09-20 10:06:56 · update #4

What makes me holier than thou? Because I dont agree with your beliefs or hers? I would never ask her to do something that diminishes her beliefs. I If asked her to walk with me in an anti Gay Rally because I desperately needed her support, should she come. OFCOURSE not because that would completely undermine her beliefs!

2006-09-20 10:10:38 · update #5

How have judged her I have not said of felt anything but disagreement. You all are far to use to being judged and expect everyone to judge you Sorry I do not!!! If I dont believe in abortion and never have one or go to a abortion clinic am I judging women who have had them? OFCOURSE not everyone can do whatever they want with their life and I dont have to act like I agree! I never said she was wrong or bad or anything like that because I dont believe anything like that. I have done plenty of wrong in my life who am I to Judge anyone? Disagreeing and not supporting someones decision is not judgement, please, quite a few of you should pick up a dictionary!!!!

2006-09-20 10:33:57 · update #6

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Well, you can send her a little note and let her know you love her and you miss her. Then it's her move. Other than that I don't know. I wouldn't apologize for my beliefs. Sometimes these things are part of "paying the price". Paying isn't always pleasant, but by standing on your beliefs in a spirit of love you gain in the spiritual.

2006-09-20 09:36:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 2

I understand how you feel. While the Bible teaches us that homosexuality is a sin, it does also say be kind to one another.

If you're a devout Christian, what do you think Christ would do? He would go. And he would look for an opportunity to win souls to Christ...which is what you should have done since Christian's are supposed to be striving to be as Christ-like as possible.

Let your cousin know that you love her for HER, and she is family. Make her understand that although you do not respect her lifestyle as it goes against your religion, yet you love her and want to share a relationship. I am sure although she said it was "ok", coming down the aisle, she would have liked to seen your face.

Good Luck!

2006-09-20 09:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 1 2

Even though she said it was okay, she's probably hurt inside. If you really care about her, try to make it up to her. I know you don't approve of what she's doing, but try to rise above it. Invite her and her partner to your home for dinner, and be cordial about it. Let your cousin know that you're still there for her.

Please understand that being gay is not about having different views. People are born that way, and it's as natural to them as breathing. Try and be a little more tolerant. Attending a gay commitment ceremony wouldn't have meant you're abandoning any Christian principles. It's like going to a wedding in a different church. It doesn't affect who you are. I have gay friends and have attended their ceremonies, and I'm as straight as the proverbial arrow.

2006-09-20 09:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by gldjns 7 · 2 3

Buy them a nice gift and take it over to their house. They know what your beliefs are, so just go and congratulate them and maybe invite them to your place for dinner in the upcoming weeks.

2006-09-20 09:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 2 0

You don't have to agree with her choices just as she doesn't have to agree with yours. Just as long as she knows you love her is what should really matter. I have gay friends and I love them the same now as I did when we were much younger.

2006-09-20 09:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Visit the both of them together in their home, and congratulate them, and ask them how they're enjoying their new life together.

Oh yeah, and get them a toaster, or some candlesticks, or a crystal bowl or something....

2006-09-20 09:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

You should get over yourself and stop being judgmental. You could have gone to the ceremony even if you disagreed, it wouldn't have to mean you were condoning anything, just that you were there because you loved your cousin and wanted to be there for her happy day.

You might want to rethink the rainbow behind you in your avatar. It suggests that you are gay.

2006-09-20 09:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2 3

you evil sanctimoniuos ****** no wonder she is acting strange. Say you are sorry for not going and not respecting her as a person.

Whatever your beliefs you should have gone to the wedding.
I bet you would have gone to the baptism of a Catholic friends child or a jewish wedding, you chose not to go because even though you say you are a christian you really hate gay people

2006-09-20 09:35:10 · answer #8 · answered by n2mustaches 4 · 2 3

You could try to bring it up in conversation, and tell her how much she means to you. But, going to her wedding was compromising your values. Reassure her that nothing has changed as far as you're concerned(if that's the truth). And ask her to work on understanding the predicament you were in.

2006-09-20 09:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by red.cancer 3 · 1 2

Apologize for not going to the ceremony, explain that you love her no matter what, and send them a great present.

And change your views about gay people and gay marriage.

2006-09-20 09:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4 2

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