1. Well there is guy named Jay at my school who is SOOOOOO hot! But the problem is, I'm practically a nerd. Not really a nerd, but I'm the girl that nobody knows. I'm the girl that no boys like--except geeky guys which are all GROSS! I have no clue what to do. I mean, I really like him and I have since the beginning of sixth grade. Now I'm in seventh and he knows I like him and he doesn't say its gross or anything. He just pushes it aside. Sometimes he'll look over at me at lunch and just sit there and stare at me with a blank face. It's weird. Does he like me? I'd appreciate it if a guy answers this question, too.
2. I really want a baby. I don't care if it's a baby brother or sister, either. I don't care if it's my own. I want one so desperately. It's like I want to be wanted by someone, Is this normal for a thirteen-year-old girl? It's like I'll do anything for one. I keep telling my mom, "Don't you just want a baby boy, since you already have three girls?" She doesn't say anything
2006-09-20 09:23:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I don't know why I want one though. I just do. Sometimes I don't feel wanted in my life. You know? It's like nobody likes me. Kind of like I am an outcast. Does anybody else ever feel like that? I do all of the time. I have always been liked when I was little--I was always the popular one when I was little--but now I am just a nobody. I'm just another girl in the crowd.
2006-09-20 09:25:23 · update #1
WHOA NELLIE!
Let me answer Question 2 first...
Take a babysitting course and go to work. Babies are expensive and a ton of work. Why not "borrow" one for a while and get paid while you enjoy it. I always found babysitting a wonderful form of birth control. Especially if you babysit a colicky baby. LOL Seriously you are WAY to young to deal with the responsibility right now.
Question one...Okay...take a breath. Just go over to him and say "Hi" then start a short conversation about something...the math quiz...the lunch menu...(NOT YOUR DESIRE TO HAVE A BABY!)...something short and light...see how that goes then decide if you want to make a habit of saying "Hi" and chatting a bit. If you do the next thing you know you could be having longer more serious conversations...which could lead to more!
Good Luck!
No Babies for you yet!
:)
2006-09-20 09:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anne 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are going through a difficult transition in your life. You want friends, you want love and you are not so popular. Guys (even the one who stares at you) develop more slowly than girls. He may have an interest in you but if you pursue him he may feel too pressured.
You must develop patience. It will be very difficult. Focusing on school is really an asset in your life. If you do well in school, you will have a good career and will attract a very good man. The nerdy guys sometimes grow up to be very successful. Any guy can be a great lover.
Be careful about wanting a baby. You may end up pregnant and having problems for the next 30 years. Again force yourself to have patience and wait until you have finished your school to entertain thoughts of having a baby. What you are experiencing is due to the hormones of puberty. The hormones are difficult to control. You would want the best for your baby and that is a secure and loving home. You can have that if you wait, concentrate on school for now. Do not do something that would be bad for the baby. There is a lot more to raising a child than playing with it.
2006-09-20 09:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK ima try to keep this short and to the point.
If you feel like your "noboby" then people will view you that way. Sometimes, in order to be noticed to have to put yourself out there, participate in different activities or something.
As for your crush, the only way your going to know if he likes you or not is if you ask.....and he'll probably say no either way.
As for the baby, you want one because you want to be loved. You know your too young for a child...you cant afford one and they don't stay small forever, your going to have to RAISE this baby for the rest of your life...meaning no time to have crushes on boys, no more school or anything you'd like to experience as a teen.
Everything has its time and one day when your physically, emotionally, financially ready - you'll have your child with your husband, the man that will love you for who you are, the man that will make you happy and take care of you (well emotionally at least)
Your at an awkward age so take it for what its worth, your only 13 once and I know by next year you'll forget about this crush and have a crush on another boy.
2006-09-20 09:32:48 · answer #3 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling lost is common among teenagers. For the baby thing either take up baby sitting or volunteer at a group baby sitting home or if your school is a grade school see if you can help out in one of the lower classes. Talk to the principle about being a teachers aid, I started doing that when I was 13 for grade kindergarten thru 3rd and it gave me my child "fix" so too speak.
As for the guy, him staring at you likely means he's not certian how he feels about you. Get active in something in your school, it will make you more noticed and less available, guys often want what they can't have. And never say gross to a nerd, if your willing to take the time they are often willing to learn and will catch on to the better grooming habits that you teach them. Plus they often go on to work the big money jobs and are extreamly willing to please (but lets not go into that till your older, I don't want to get into trouble! ;) )
2006-09-20 10:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by PrincessB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Yeah, I would think that he probably likes you back in some way or another. I mean pushing it aside kinda is a way of playing around and not trying to show that he does.
2. Now, wanting a baby brother or sister at your age is probably normal because you want someone to play with, someone else to have by your side. I just know that once you have one. You will love them forever. You'll protect them and everything just as if you were the mother of your baby brother or sister.
2006-09-20 09:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by dominictantillo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
question 1. I think you should speak with this lad when you are on your own, he may like you but is pressured but the popular crowd to stay away, have you tried speaking with him ?? does he attend any clubs that you could start going to hang out in the same places and maybe he will get to know you.
question 2. you sound very alone and need someone to talk to maybe you can speak with a teacher confide in them, as you say you are only 13 dont become another statistic the last thing you need at your age is a baby they take alot looking after you need to go out and enjoy your teenage years not being stuck in doors looking after a baby...please dont go down that path
2006-09-20 09:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheater
j/k
Don't rush having a boyfriend. I didn't have boyfriends at your age either. It finally happened. If he likes you, you'll find out. Or you can have a friend of your ask him for you.
A baby won't bring you happiness. It's just a phase. Wait until you are married with the person of your dreams. Don't look for him or you won't get him. I met my husband to be when I least expected it. That's how love works!
I've always loved babies. Try getting a baby sitting job. Do you go to church? Volunteer in the church nursery. This way, you can play with babies and then give them back!!!!! If you have a kid, it will ALWAYS be with you and will grow up. It won't be a baby forever.
2006-09-20 09:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by april_hwth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
question #1
i was that girl in junior high. it's a hard thing to go through, being lonely and wanting to fit in, and desperately wanting attention from that one special boy... especially when you are not super-popular. here's what i can tell you: odds are, this guy doesn't like you. i know that's not what you want to hear. but most guys this age don't ever really "like" a girl in a grown-up sense. if they pick a girl to "go out" with, it's because they think it will make them more popular, or their friends will think they're cool, or some other stupid reason that has nothing to do with you. if you're not one of the few people in that popular crowd (who can raise his own social status), he's probably not going to be into you. social status and popularity (or trying to get girls to have sex and then dumping them) is pretty much what dating is all about in junior high and high school too.
i'm sorry i can't give more "happy" advice - all i can do is tell you what i experienced. the best advice i can give is to try to get your needs met in other ways. it's really normal to want to fit in, and to want attention and companionship and all those things.... but really good friends are the BEST way to get that in your life right now!!! find something you're interested in that will give you some satisfaction, and join a club or a team. sports, arts, church, whatever... get involved! and work to find a good group of girl friends who can support you and be there for you. girl friends are much better than a guy who will only try to pressure you into having sex, and then dump you anyway. seriously. save the dating thing until maybe 10th grade, or 12th, or heck, even college, when guys are not so dumb.
question #2
first and foremost... A BABY WILL NOT LOVE YOU. millions of girls and young women have babies every year because they're lonely and desperately want someone to love them. it's the biggest mistake you can make. sure, a baby needs you to feed it and cuddle it, but that's not love. as a rule, kids under the age of 4 are EXTREMELY selfish. i have a two-year-old son and i can't tell you how lonely and difficult it gets sometimes... all day i pour all my love and attention into this little guy, and he is too busy to sit in my lap, pushes me away when i try to kiss him, and hits me when he gets angry. having a child is a labor of love that does not pay off for MANY years when your child is an adult and they can look back and say "NOW i see everything you did for me.... thank you!" but until that time it is a very difficult and thankless job.
I DO UNDERSTAND your desire to be wanted and loved, but a baby IS NOT something that can help you with that. please talk to your mom about how you're feeling. it sounds like you have sisters and a mom too... there's lots of potential for loving relationships there. your mom may not realize that you're feeling lonely, and if she knew, she may be able to help.... moms are not as stupid as you think! and again, i can't overestimate the importance of finding some good girl friends you can depend on. they will keep you sane through the minefield of junior high and high school, and then stick with you for the rest of your life!
2006-09-20 09:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by Janci 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boy- walk up and introduce yourself.
2nd question: You need to live life before you give life. If you have a baby in your teens, that means no more going out with friends, get a job, no dates because the guys don't want a girl with a kid.
Be a teen, you will have plenty of time to have children when you grow up. PLEEEEEEASE don't get pregnant. You have to learn how to take care of yourself, and make it on your own before kids.
2006-09-20 09:32:49 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Not too sure, just try talking to him like a friend, not hitting on him or anything, but just to get to know him.
2) I know babys are adorable and seem like so much fun, but seriously honey, your time will come. Its def. normal to feel that way now, but please dont act on it. It is way too early, I am sure you would be a good mom, but you would miss so much of your school years!! And it would be so much easier to get through college before having a baby, after you have money and a set future. Do that for you child, and she will be forever grateful!!
2006-09-20 09:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋