need help i was in a relationship that i have been verbal abuse and low self esteem what can i do?

Question

i have left him alone can any body please help me

Answer 1

if you were in an abusive relationship, one of the first things someone would tell you is to get some kind of counseling so you could get an understanding of what or some potential trauma you have or may have encountered. This may be the right thing to do along with gathering an understanding of what you want out of life as for yourself. Know and understand the things that you will not tolerate in a relationship and stick to it. Verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse.

Now to get back to being you again, make a list of the things you like to do. Do not include dating, find a female friend, who you can talk to and just get back to doing girl things. Get your laugh back, rent a few comedy DVDs, baby sit a niece or nephew, be a kid again. Do something for yourself. You are not on any kind of restriction, its just that you want to know you again.

Keep in mind that you do not need a man in your life to validate you as a woman. No Drama. When your laughter returns, take notice of the things you do the best and drive forward with it. when you began to feel the love for yourself, you will know it because it will be what you've always desired for yourself and that will feel good. At all cost, don't let that guy back into your life

Answer 2

Go out and have some fun.He verbally abused you because HE has low self esteem.
The problem with women is that they fall in love with the thought of being in love.That's why they get mixed up with so-called bad boys.Women know these guys are losers.They think they're fun at first and even when they figure out they're losers they think they can change them.When they find out their bad boy is just immature and aren't going to change,they have 2 or 3 kids and nothing to show for their troubles.
Now is the time to be happy you got rid of him.True love will find you.

Answer 3

Here is my two cents and I feel your pain.You are smart that you move quick. You know how to get out. There are so many women that are in the same situation and do not think you are alone.I urge you quit him and do not let him back.He hurts you enough and plese tell yourself that You are not a victim.You smart and know what is next for you life.You need a good book about self-esteem and just check them out from your local library.One thing you need is Not to look back your Painful Past.Remember,Life goes on and move forward. Do not stop your ability to grow. He has a problem, and he needs help.But you are not going to be in his shoes.It is about time to kiss this looser Good Bye.

Answer 4

First off, try to spend time with good friends and family members, people you really trust and who empower you. Do not live in the past with your abusive ex-hubby's words hanging over you head. I realize this is easier said than done. If you are still in school, speak to a trusted teacher or counselor. I would also consider talking to a spiritual leader or even your family doctor. It is good that you have physically left him, but you also need to do so mentally and emotionally. No one should ever treat you like that! Good luck.

Answer 5

Well first boost your self esteem back up and hold your head high love who you are embrace who you are everyday. Once you have regained confidence in yourself go out and meet other people and move on with life. Just take it one day at a time sweetie and stay encouraged. Good Luck

Answer 6

Get therapy if you can. What you can do for yourself is be positive as much as possible. Be sure to take care of yourself, put on make-up and fix your hair. Anything to improve your appearance, like doing your nails is helpful. Things like that boost your self-esteem. Avoid alcohol, a depressant. Do crafts, create things. If you have supportive family & friends, cling to their love and strength.

Answer 7

You need a positive influence to reprogram; your self esteem


Friends and family are the best thing for this but you also have to be willing and believe them when they tell you the good things about yourself.

Tell yourself good things about yourself in the mirror every morning, you may feel like a goof but it works, this is the keyboard of experience tappin out my dear.

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Answer 8

I think that you need to talk to someone about it, or maybe get some self help books and realize that you are worth more then that. At least you left him, that's a step in the right direction,,,,good luck!!!

Answer 9

Know that you are not alone. Pray, Talk, Write it out, & read self help books. Take a class or exercise. - Doing anything physical (that's healthy, of course - beating his *** back does NOT count...ha, ha) really helps lift you up in all ways!!! :) Good Luck.

Answer 10

Thank God you had the strength to leave him, see you are stronger then you think, read some books on self esteem, they also have tapes out. work on yourself.. and remember do not let any one put you down again. Say to yourself, "I am somebody" over and over again. try and build up your confidants. Work on you!! I wish you all the best!!