My friend invited me to go with her, her boyfriend, a girl and her boyfriend, and this other girl to the movies then to the mall. I don't like scary movies, but my friend does. I said to her "do u know what movie we're going to see?" and she said no, but said something scary. and I said "well I don't really like scary movies..." and she's like "Sam! You have to get over that!" and I said "no!" cause I don't feel like changing me for a friend that has been being mean to me for a while, you know? And then she's like "FINE! THEN DON'T COME!" and I said "god. fine" and she yelled that REALLY loud. Am I overreacting or anything?????
2006-09-20 08:57:59 · 16 answers · asked by Vshak 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm 13, and theres WAY more to the story. Long story short, the girl got a boyfriend and is putting her boyfriend before me. She's being mean to me too. For instance, if I'm talking to her and her boyfriend calls, she just hangs up on me.
2006-09-20 09:07:32 · update #1
No. You said you don't like scarey movies and your friend should respect that. She's only disappointed because she would like to hang out with you as a group and you've upset her plans.
2006-09-20 09:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not over reacting because you are mearly giving your opinion. Ive been in that situation so many times with my best friend and the best advice I can share is to apologise for shouting and just tell her that you were just telling her where your coming from.
Ideally she should apologise straight afterwards too but you both need to compromise about the film..as the others may not want to want to see a scary film.
If you fear scary movies, maybe try starting with spoofs like scary movie 1,2,3,4...they are like a comedy version of the horror films. That should ease you onto horrors as there isnt anything truely scary about them. Is there a particular reason why you do not like horror films? Any phobias that are the real reason you dont like scary films?
To shut her up, just tell her that the only reason you dont like scary movies is because they get boring, they all have similar plots which most scenes are predictable and they are just not entertaining enough for you! If you are scared then that will play down your fear and she wont be a ***** about it to you or anyone else.
2006-09-20 16:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by babybitch69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It sounds like your friend has a temprement issue. She should repsect your differences as I'm sure you respect hers. Then again have you ever watched scary movies? If you don't like it that's fine. If you never tried it, maybe you should try something different. Then again it's just me because movies that are out these days are not really scary anymore. Itls not like she asking you to turn into a completely new person. It's good to get over your fears or they will control you. How has she been being mean besides being aggrivated by the fact that everyone else is fine with the idea but they have to cater to your fears?
2006-09-20 16:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by twinkle toes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to go, don't feel like going for whatever reason, why is she making a big deal about it? She's being way too dramatic. Who cares if you don't like scary movies... she knows it and you didn't want to go... big deal. She needs to quit being such a drama queen!! That's WAY childish and WAY ridiculous. I have friends that LOVE scary movies, i personally do not. So when they go to scary movies, I don't go... I'll meet up with them later or go to the next movie that I get to pick next time. No big deal!!
2006-09-20 16:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by slickpam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of this is over a movie? Nobody is making you go to the movie. If you don't want to go then don't. If she has been mean to you for a while then stop hanging out with her.
2006-09-20 16:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by goldiemcg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you're 12 years old, you're not over-reacting, you're acting your age.
If you're over 12, you both seem to be kind of immature. There's something to be said about being polite-- neither of you two were polite to each other. You refused to participate because you wanted what you wanted and your friend demanded you do it her way because she wanted it her way.
Also, maybe this friendship has run it's course and it's time to move on.
2006-09-20 16:03:03 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your your own person Sam! If your not into something, don't join in. Sounds like "peer pressure" to me. Watch what movies you like. Your taste doesn't have to be that of one who seems very self centered and tries to be controlling. Be thankful SHE isn't your girlfriend.
2006-09-20 16:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not overreacting. Because, you see, a "true" friend doesn't try to push something on another friend "just" because it's something "they" like. Instead, they will except you as you are. Perhaps if you let this "friend" see what it feels like to not have "your" friendship for awhile, she'll respect who you are, and apologize. If not? She wasn't your friend to begin with.
Good Luck
2006-09-20 16:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope not at all, if she was really your friend she would understand that u just don't like scary movies and would choose something different.
ditch her she's not real
2006-09-20 16:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not all..she should understand that you dont like scary movies
2006-09-20 16:19:03 · answer #10 · answered by ~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋