How to get over a married guy? What steps to take to mend a broken heart from being broken hearted by a married guy?
2006-09-20 08:36:39 · 4 answers · asked by Shelby W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I thank you all for help me and giving me advice on this. I know that I make a horrible mistake and i am trying to correct it. I just dont know why i still feel so hurt and as if something in me died when he broke up with me. And the fact of the matter more so is that he gave me a promise ring and then broke up with me 4 days latter. And tommorrow marks the 1 year anniversary of meeting one another and 4 days after that marks 1 year of being broken up. I am older now, met someone else that is everything that he is and was not but i feel as though he has robbed me of a great amount of love that i could of given to the person that i am with now and all of my inner most feelings of love, part of them have been destroyed and i dont know how long it would take to get it back. One year anniversary tommorow and its very hard. I never ment for this to happen. I just wish if someone could gime me some solid strong advice as to how to deal with this step by step!! to give my love to the new guy
2006-09-20 09:03:35 · update #1
You should not have too much trouble, getting over him, after all he lied to you. Face it he was not true to you, he used you, for his own good. He did not care how he treated you, so you need to say to yourself, good bye to bad rubbish!! and get on with your life, I hope that you have learned something from this experience. The next person you get involved with someone, get to know them first, stay friends for a long time.
2006-09-20 08:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there before. The lies about being single and letting your heart fall for a guy who's only pretending, but has a life outside what he's trying to stir up. He nevered loved you (even if he told you he did). It was about his male ego and if you didn't know from the beginning he was married then you're safe and in time your heart will mend. he on the other hand will suffer the penalty of fidelity in God's eyes. I don't understand why men and women do these type of things. You think you're playing it safe when in reality even though both parties you're cheating on the wife and the mistress are innocent (sometimes the mistress is innocent), but you're hurting them both and it's not about love it's about fulfilling your needs and that is selfish. Do note that karma is a B*&ch and when it comes around for the cheaters it will hit home very hard. So be careful. It is better to tell the person you're in the relationship with that things are not working out before you decide to go out and play. To the young lady who wrote this, my friend you will be fine trust me there's a man in the works for you who's very single and well deservant to your heart. Be patient and concentrate on mending your heart first before he shows up to steal your heart in good deed. take care
2006-09-20 08:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by kellydanner1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, honey... MOST married men will swear they are going to get divorced and marry you..or they're separated. Most of the time they are lying. Besides do you really want to be someone who cheats on his wife? Find someone who isn't married, go get a new outfit, get your hair done, look and the mirror and know you are better than he is, and its his loss anyway.
On the revenge side... if you have mementos or pictures... I'd send them to the wife, let her know her husband is an a**hole.
2006-09-20 08:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you can't do anything to get over it. It is not like a light switch that you can turn off at your whim. But time does make the pain go away so it is not as immediate and always present.
2006-09-20 09:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by David K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋