My husband can not have sex with me unless I put on something to cover up my breast; i.e., t-shirt, gown, etc.
If I walk around naked, he looks away. He never touches them.
This has went on for 5 years.
Because I'm cystic, I cannot get implants.
Needless to say, I don't want to have sex with him.
Be gentle cause I have no self-esteem.
2006-09-20 08:35:01 · 32 answers · asked by IwishIwaspretty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you placed his hand your breasts? Maybe think of the words to inform him that you are a sensuous woman with needs and if he does not get a thrill from massaging your breasts and nipples....then surely you will...and you would appreciate it.
2006-09-20 08:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
As you know women in the 1920's strapped down their breasts to wear the latest and greatest fashions. I don't think big boobs came back into fashion until the 1950's, a dud of a decade. Looks at the haute coutour models of this or any day. Flat as pancakes. And the lusty busty broads walking around with perfect headlamps? Boob jobs. And the biggies? Taken to the extreme there are women undergoing breast reduction - oh the pain of it all.
Get yourself to an upscale boutique and ask the young things wasting away behind the counter to show you a couple of designs made to downplay those pesky things. You use the lack of to your benefit in style.
Now your hubby. He's stuck in that adolescent phase of moving in for a looksee and getting suffocated in the mammary's ala those coming of age films of the 50's. Take him with you to a store and put a couple of things on and model in front of him. Style means a new way of looking at things. Men are such babies and so lacking in style that they think change means death.
It's the self-esteem thing that worries me because if you pranced around using what you have to your benefit and stop worrying about some lout of a guy who has no taste or sense of adventure, you'd find you are way high on the esteem thermometer.
So, recapping, get thee to someone who can show you to fashion using less breast rather than more. Then coordinate. Realize that you have all that you need and make the most of it. And the esteem thing, everyone else out there is suffering the same thing - never satisfied despite evidence that they have a whole lot to work with but don't want to work. So the plastic surgeons get richer every year. Result is temporary esteem that deflates a bit down the road. Finally, tell hubby to mature emotionally and tastefully so that his flabby belly and enlarging, drooping breasts don't become topics of conversation in the house and down at Miss Flora's center of gossip in-town waystation.
Finally build an act in bed featuring new ways to look at breasts that actually move and can be felt unlike those plastic beach balls glued to the chest of women who last year may well have been dog ugly but with so much work done, they are walking statues of synthetic stuff making them all look alike as they try to keep from moving their lips when talking lest they rip something critical that unravels the works like a house made of cards falling.
And I don't want to have sex with your husband either!
2006-09-20 09:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe Your husband needs to get some counseling. If he really loved you the way a husband should love his wife, The size of your breasts should have nothing to do with his attraction to you. When you love someone wholly and completely, such superficial things should not matter, He should love you the way you are, and if he can't accept it and learn to love it, maybe you shouldnt be together. You deserve a man who appreciates and loves you no matter what. Please take my next comment in the best possible way. I do not mean this to be offensive, If you suffer from low self esteem, counseling may help you out as well. Your husbands reaction to your physique may be contributing to your low self esteem. You should be with a partner who will build you up and make you feel like the love goddess you are, all women are beautiful, any shape, any size. All women have quirks about parts of their bodies, even beautiful celebrities, why do you think plastic surgery is so popular. You have to learn how to love yourself and be confident in your own body before other people will. I wish you the best of luck and I hope this helps a little.
2006-09-20 08:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that is bull. CRAP! Your husband sounds like a total jerk, I have a 34 between A and B cup, depending on the time of the month, up until about a year ago, I was much smaller couldn't even fill out an A cup. My husband of 4 years would much rather me run around naked all of the time. If we didn't have kids he would probably hide my clothes. You need to find some one who appreciates you as a woman, and understands what it means to love someone. If you love some one, a lot of times you don't even see their flaws.
Are you sure he is not gay???
2006-09-20 08:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by Becky 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband has a problem. Not you! I am cystic too. I'm sorry that he is like that with you. Some men are boob men. My man had an X with huge boobs, boobs aren't **** guys. I can tell you that drinking alot of herbal teas will enhance your bust size a little bit. Does your husband know that it is bringing down your self esteem? Tell him you would like for him to touch them. I'm not big chested, but they get attention all of the time. I don't know what else to say to you. But don't let it bring you down like that. Try the teas, and they also sell bust enhancement pills at GNC's. I find that they do work. But they are expensive.
2006-09-20 08:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by Mother of One 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have the wrong man. I, and many others, love small and flat chests. A nice perky nipple with nothing else is hot. They are beautiful in any size as long as they are NOT FAKE!
Your man is a punk. Get out!! that may hurt but it's the truth. He is likely homosexual and is afraid your flat chest will remind him of a man and his true self will come out.
I'm already married but if you need a little self esteem building I will be there for you!
2006-09-20 08:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, I would say your husband has issues. He's probably young and needs some time to mature. Most men I know have learned that sex is not abput the boobs but about making a connection with someone you truly love. Young boys don't get that yet. If you realy love him inspite of his indefference to your breasts you should try to stick it out. If you feel hatred for him becasue of the way he treats you, you need to get out and move on. One last note, a woman's breasts were created for one single purpose, and that is to feed her young. Size makes no difference in the way your breasts function. Even flat chested woman are able to produce milk in their breasts. Take it from me. Before I had children I was less than an A cup and I was able to feed both of my babies. Breasts are not men's playthings. That's a reality your husband will need to learn.
2006-09-20 08:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I am going through much the same thing. But unlike you I can get implants. BUt reading your post made me realize just how idiotic I am acting. What we need to do is ditch these losers and get with true men who actually love us. You are beautiful and the fact that he has screwed with your self esteem is not forgivable. These other responses are lovely and making me tear up.
2006-09-20 09:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by jenlovely01 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him. There are so many men out there that love flat-chested women. Many men love that pre-pubescent look. He really is killing your self-esteem and sense of self worth. Why would any woman want to have sex with a man who makes them feel so bad? How would he feel if, everytime you had sex with him, you never looked or touched his penis (except as was necessary)? If he is making you feel that bad and you don't want to have sex with him, you should stop having sex with him. Don't let him destroy your sense of self. I think in your situation, it may be better just to abstain from sex for awhile rather than submit to degrading sex.
2006-09-20 08:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need a new husband . Question is he bald ? Is he fat or out of shape ? I am a 41 year old male and built like Arnold so I know what being in shape is all about . sounds like he has beaten you down about that . My opinion breast are for feeding babies , I like small breast . Find something to nail him with , Bald , Fat , ugly Feet anything . Show him how it feels . You dont have to take that abuse . P. S . I would love to have sex with you . Just email me . conan_0565@yahoo.com . if i was married to an *** Whole like that i would have no self-esteem either .
2006-09-20 08:47:14 · answer #10 · answered by conan_0565 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I don't think there is such a thing as a ugly chest on a woman. It is in the eyes of the person your with, I would say it is his loss. You sound like a sexy woman walking around naked like that, you naughty girl! It doesn't matter what he thinks , I bet you can find something on him that s not perfect? flat chest or big chest, what really matters is what is on the inside of it not something to stare at on the outside.
2006-09-20 08:40:52 · answer #11 · answered by schlongy1969 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋