how can I improve this situation?

Question

I am 15, and my sister is 17, lately my sister is the most miserable, bitchiest person lately... and it's made it so difficult that I HATE coming home.. all I want to do is be at school or be at other people's houses or even out somewhere, sitting alone. She criticizes everything I do, always negatively, and it never is something that hurts me that badly usually, but it's so repetitive. She tells my parents and relatives things about me and exagerates to make me seem like a horrible person, when they are either untrue or embellished stories. She is a mean person when my parents are not home, but sometimes she will be decent and then when they do get home she starts criticizing me and telling me every flaw that I have or flawed things I have done. When we go places like the mall she always tries to make me mad and when I do get upset and don't want to talk to her and don't respond to her, she goes home and tells my parents I was the one being the biotch, I am sorry this is so long

She's always negative and she ruins good times I could have with my mother or other things, I have told my mom that my sister makes me feel bad and her miserable attitude is contagious and my mom does nothing, I am very tolerant, my sister was never the nicest person, but it has past the tolerable point, and it's to the point I hate my homelife, What should I do?

My sister also used to do very well academically, but she began smoking pot and they went down, and my parents were never that pleased with that, I think maybe she IS trying to 'top me' because I do very well in school. I try not to get much attention from my parent's, I really honestly hate being payed much attention to, I prefer just flying under the radar...

Answer 1

Your sister appears to have issues. Some of which may not be apparent. It does seem that she may be experiencing a bit of jealousy because of your status with your parents. The tone of your message indicates that you may be closer to your parents than she is. It is possible that she once held this position prior to maturing. If this is true, then she may be lost for a right way to regain their attention. She feels that the only way is by destroying you in one way or another. I know it is difficult to do, but perhaps there is some way to help her get the attention she wants without her realizing what you are doing. Take advantage of opportunities to brag about her to your friends and parents while in her presence. This will certainly change the game.

Answer 2

Man that is hard. I'm a girl and I'm not even that bitchy. Its either she needs help in shutting her mouth sometimes cause one she's going to critercise the wrong person and she could get hurt. You shouldn't let her ruin your relationship with your mom. However if your mom doesn't put her in her place she's actually encouraging her in a sense. What you should do is for starters ignore her when she critercises you, words are like the wind, it comes and goes.
If you think that she's a damper on your mood spend less time with her and more time in your room or with friends.
Cause at the rate she's going she might drive yuo nuts.

Answer 3

People only do things because they get something out of it. Your sister seems to go overboard in picking on you. Why? What does she get out of it? I suspect she is secretly jealous of you, and by casting you in a negative light with everyone else she seeks to raise her own self-esteem. She must also thrive on knowing she gets under your skin. In another year she'll (hopefully) go away to college and you'll have the house to yourself. Maybe she'll mature in a few years.

I have to believe that other people who know you, know that what she's saying is not true. Try not to let it bother you, although I know it does. Also try not to go places with her if you can avoid it.

Answer 4

sisters always fight argue and fuss that's part of growing up with each other regardless how you feel now one day you will both laughter about these things enjoy having a sister it will get better latter on its just your ages and time frame nothing no one else has not experienced

Answer 5

Well I hate to say it but sounds like big sister is trying to make herself look like the "angel" Remember you are not terrible... and try not to let her see it is bothering you.