inferiority complex?

Question

In church once a woman said to me that i had an inferiority complex, how could they know this, i did not understand this and did not know what messages i was giving off, I am not sure what it is, i want to feel good about myself and not less than other people. i dont, know how they came to this conclusion. I have always had this sort of fear people would not accept me as my mum and dad did not.

Answer 1

It might be that the persona that you are projecting to other people leads them to believe that you are lacking in self esteem.

It's easy to correct at a cosmetic level. Look people directly into their eyes when you talk to them. Answer any question with a straight-forward, positive manner. Don't allow the other person to see or feel the turmoil that may be inside. In other words, create a public persona which projects a confident image.

That said, it is much harder to change your internal feelings of inferiority.

The best solution would be to seek professional help.

In lieu of that, I'll give you a few lay suggestions.

Write down a list consisting of two columns which document your achievements and failures during the last few months. Assign a point value to each of them so that you can tally them up against each other. You may be pleasantly surprised to learn that your achievements far exceed your failures. If that is the case, then you have no reason to feel inferior.

If your failures equal or exceed your achievements, analyze each and determine the reason for each failure and each achievement. Then, after contemplation, develop and document a plan to eliminate each failure and to enhance each achievement in the future.

You'll then know what you need to change to become more confident. Just know that the changes that you need to make will not happen overnight. It might take you several years to move that weight over to the positive side.

But, with a plan, you can see a path to success, and be confident that you can reach it.

Answer 2

An inferiority complex is when you do not feel as worthy as the people around you, when you down yourself. If you don't do that then the woman at church is full of bologna. If you do feel that way, then you should consider PROFESSIONAL counseling. Remember every one occasionally feels that way, but if it's too often it interferes with your quality of life. By the way, unless she came at it in a nice way and seems to be truly worried about you, give her the cold shoulder. Nobody needs a nosy busybody bothering them.

Answer 3

You just answered your question. You said "I have always had this sort of fear people would not accept me as my mum and dad did not."...that is an inferiority complex. Learn to overcome your upbringing and your childhood and you'll overcome the complex. Think back to someone that totally and completely accepted you as you were, concentrate on them rather than your parents.

Answer 4

My dear dont worry. just read below what I wrote and strictly follow the rule. Your life will change:

A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $500/-
Note. In the room of 200,

He asked, " Who would like this 500 note?" Hands
Started going up.

He said, " I am going to give this note to one of you
But first let me do this." He proceeded to crumple the note up.

He then asked, " Who still wants it?" Still the hands were up in the air.
"Well," he replied, " What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground

And started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up,
Now all crumpled and dirty. " Now who still wants it?" Still the hands

Went into the air. " My friends, you have all learned a very valuable
Lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it

Did not decrease in value. It was still worth $ 500/-. Many times in
Our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the

Decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as
Though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will
Happen,

You will never lose your value. You are special don't ever forget it!
Never let yesterday's disappointments overshadow tomorrow's dreams."

Answer 5

Some people wear their feelings like a coat.A person's level of self esteem is often very obvious.Next time you're out at the mall or the grocery store observe other people.You'll notice that some folks walk with a smile and their heads high,while others might shuffle around with an air of purposelessness about them.
Also take note of the way that you carry yourself.Do you slouch? Is your head hung low? Do you avoid eye contact? Is there no spring in your step when you walk? Do you only mumble or stutter a reply when greeted by strangers? Believe it or not....if you can take hold of your body language you can have an effect on how people perceive you,and how you perceive yourself!
We all radiate our attitudes.Those who are "sunny" (and have an air of confidence about them) tend to do better in life,whether it be dating,job promotions,getting a better deal on a car,or even something as mundane as getting prompt and efficient assistance at a store.
People who have an air of self-defeat about them have a harder time with things.They can oft-times be the victims of predators.Con-men love people with low self esteem,as do muggers,rapists and used car salesmen.There are people out there who have the ability to read other people like a book,and they have no qualms about using this skill to their advantage.
Take stock of yourself! Realize your worth and your contributions to society! Carry yourself with pride and confidence,and you just might find that people (yourself not the least of whom!) look at you in a different light!

Answer 6

That's what an inferiority complex is; feeling less than other people and fearing that people won't accept you.

Answer 7

Sounds to me like you DON'T feel good about yourself.
That's the definition of an inferiority complex.

Answer 8

Maybe the word has gotten around that you have a small unit? Prove to them that you are actually an insensitive prick...that should put an end to those rumors.

Answer 9

well, dont let this woman in church diagnose you like that. I suggest going to a Psychiatrist/therapist.

Answer 10

inferiority complex? ---OR---"JUST 'INFERIOR' "----THERE'S QUITE A BIG DIFFERENCE !!!----BY THE WAY:WHERE DOES THAT "GOOD CHURCH LADY" GET OFF BY TELLING YOU THAT KIND OF CRAP???---SEEMS TO ME THAT SHE'S BEING AT LEAST "A LITTLE JUDGEMENTAL"---OH WELL, NOBODY "EZ" PERRFECT!!!--- WE ALL SIN IN OUR OWN INDIVIDUAL WAYS---THO' I AM A BIT CURIOUS TO DELVE INTO HER MOTIVATION(S) AS TO WHY SHE IS TRYING TO "PUT YOU DOWN", AND MAKE YOU FEEL "SHEETY" ABOUT YOURSELF---WHATZ 'ER GAME???---WHATZ SHE TRYING TO GAIN???--- BY "KNOCKING" YOU WILL SHE FEEL SO MUCH BETTER ABOUT HER (PROBABLY ,"INADEQUATE") SELF???---