Okay some of you might remember that a couple of months ago I told you guys that my child's father didn't want anything to do with me. Well now he is consistently calling and visiting telling me how he wants to be in my daughters life and evrything. He told me that he thought I was lying about being prego but now that i am 51/2 months and he realizes that there will be a little girl coming into this world soon he wants to be there. He is picking out names and everything but i am not paying him any attention cause i don't trust him because of what he did for the first four months of my pregnancy by not being there. He ran away like a little a** boy and now he's back. Should I accept him back in my life or say f**k him?
2006-09-20 08:20:57 · 25 answers · asked by Ajh' mere's Mom 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'd let him be a part of the babies life, you dont need him though!!!
2006-09-20 08:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Claire O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give him a chance. Having a child is a very VERY frightning thing, and in his defense its scary enough whenyou're pregnant.
My husband refused to look or touch me for the first few weeks of my pregnancy. He didnt really have much interest in it until our ultrasound at 8 weeks. After that point, when he realized how real it was, and what it meant that he created this new person, he was in tears and ever since has been the model expectant father.
Fear does weird things to men.
Your daughter deserves as much of her father as he's willing to provide her, its hard, but try not to take that away from her life. Unless he's being abusive or obviously not wanting to participate.
2006-09-20 15:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say f**k kim is how you ended up the way you are. I'm a guy and have 2 children. I love them very much. I also believe people need a second chance. Don't move too fast with that chance. Little by little dish out some responsibility to see how he's going to react or act. Then you can make the call. This way you can find out if he's sincere or has another motive for his behavior.
2006-09-20 15:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by swomedicineman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he IS the father, so he legally has rights. However, I say give him a chance because he was probably just freaked the hell out about an unexpexted pregnancy. Now that he has come to terms with it, he is trying to do the right thing, and you are just crapping on all of his efforts. I'm not saying take him back with open arms, but just let him have a chance. If he pulls that crap again, however, THAT is a different story!
2006-09-20 15:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by carolynnnna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what advice we give you, in the end you have to make the desicion. I would take it slow. Maybe he was scared. Maybe he thought it through, and realized he was wrong. What ever the reason, he's back now, take it slow, feel him out, make sure he is pure in heart, you don't want to have him run off after the baby is born too. But it is much easier raising a baby with two parents instead of just one.
2006-09-20 15:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by tnmomof2as 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep your distance. But do allow him to see the baby. He is the father just make sure you do keep your distance so you or your baby do not get hurt. Also if i were you i wouldnt give my child his last name until he proves that he is going to be a good supportive father. Just to throw that in the mix. But all and all you need to do what is right for you and your baby. Sometimes it does take a little bit for a guy to realize he has responsiblities.
Good luck
2006-09-20 15:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by Alyssa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're doing the right thing be ignoring him. If he's not a bad guy, letting him be a part of your daughters life later on would probably be good for her. Just don't let him use/abuse you in anyway including emotionally. Tell him to leave you alone. The fact that he didn't believe you for 5 months doesn't dismiss the fact that he abandoned you & your little girl.
2006-09-20 15:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by jamieinreno 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless he signs off his parental rights, he has a right to see the baby after it is born whether you want him in your life or not. He could have been scared that's all. Let him be involved in the baby's life. You don't have to let him back in the relationship with you though. It's all for the sake of your soon to be born baby.
2006-09-20 17:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by Jen n CraigB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept him back!!! He was probably scared. My husband did the same thing. Ans now we are happily married, have two beautiful girls, and a boy on the way. If he wants to be involved then do not push him away. It is very important for a little girl to have a daddy. Mine are both daddys girls. I would give him a second chance. I actually recomend, for your health and heart to give him another chance. It is easier to love then it is to hate.
2006-09-20 15:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont trust him then no, but you should try to let him be around cause no matter what he's going to be in your life cause of your child you both have together! If he's trying dont push him away! Well he had time to meditate so maybe he's stepping up! Just dont ignore him!
2006-09-20 15:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by **GG** 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand that you don't want him in your life, but its not fair to your daughter he should be allowed in her life i would explain to him that he is not going to be in and out of her life its not fair to your daughter not to have her father in her life. anyone can be a dad but it takes a real man to step up to the plate and take care of the child. I would give it a chance, if it don't work out may be its best for him to be on his way. i had my dad in and out of my life until i got to the age to put a stop to it, now he has a grandaughter and is not allowed to see her cause i don't want her to go thru what i went thru. I wish you the best of luck. Its not easy being a single mom. But its not worth the trouble and heartach that he might put her thru I am a single mom and wouldn't change it for the world
2006-09-20 15:44:27 · answer #11 · answered by lovergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋