2006-09-20 08:19:44 · 15 answers · asked by Danita L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'd keep being their friend. If you're really a friend, you shouldn't mind that he/she is gay. You didn't start hanging out with them because they were straight, or because they liked eating ice cream, you liked him/her as a friend because of different reasons. So as long as he/she doesn't make a move on you, keep being friends... it will not hurt you. Nothing should have changed except for the fact that well, now you know they're gay.
2006-09-20 08:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. I think a better question is what would they do if they found out you were heterosexual? Oooooo Scary! Just kidding.
2. Nothing dear. Your friend knows your lifestyle & you know theirs. Be friends, share POVs, go places and do things like friends do. Group hobbies.
3. Whatever you do, do not introduce them to your other friends as your 'Gay' friend. That is very un-PC.
4. I have been approached by all lifestyles, and I am flattered. If I don't want to date them because of my lifestyle, I am frank with them. No big deal. No bigger than a girl turning down a boy she doesn't care to date.
5. News Flash: You have known Gay people your whole life, and perhaps have some in your family, but have lived double lives to avoid ostracism.
7. Just think of how many faux pas you may have made in their presence, and they remained silent, but knew where you stood. Embarrassing now isn't it. Also squashes the stereotypes since you didn't have 'Gaydar'.
8. It's a learning experience in diversity. People are people, some are odious, and others a pleasure to be with.
Good luck and warm regards.
2006-09-20 08:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by mitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was actually in this situation myself. I had known my friend for years with out the slightest hint that they were gay. Any way eventually my mate told me, I was a little shocked, but because he was a good friend I just accepted it. His sexuality made no diffierence to our relationship at all. In fact my wife and I joked about it. If your friendship means anything at all then just accept it. If you feel embarrassed about having a gay friend then its your loss. If on the other hand your gay friend fancies you then that puts a different slight on the problem, and you'd have to make it clear that you don't feel the same - that would probably ruin your friendship, but rather that and be genuine than live a lie.
2006-09-20 08:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a friend is not judging them. I would still enjoy their friendship. If ever they tried something with me I would have to let them know right their and then where I stand on the issue.
Many people have friends that are gay and don't even realize it. That is because their friend doesn't divulge such information or makes passes.
2006-09-20 08:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by J j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you homophobic at all? Why is this an issue? If you are there friend then you will accept this fact. Everybody is different in their own ways. Being gay is not a disease or something you cant be around. It seems that your friend can handle it but you can't.
2006-09-20 08:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by GRISSIOM PURE GENIUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would still be friends with them. im a woman and i have gay friends. a friend is someone who will be there no matter what. so dont let it stop you. just expain to them that you are straight and have desire to become gay. once that is out in the open than you friendship will be on the right track. good luck to ya
2006-09-20 08:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by missindy46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably be shocked and need a few days to get used to the idea. Then I'd go back being friends with them, as long as they knew I wasn't interested in them. After all, I'm a woman and I have male friends, I don't see a lot of difference between having a male friend who could find me attractive and having a female friend who could find me attractive?
2006-09-20 08:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have freinds that i have known all along were gay, mostly lesbians but also some gay men. it would not matter to me one bit. since i have a beautiful wife why would i care about there sexual preferance. i think that the people who have a problem with gays are not sure if they are gay or straight themselves.
2006-09-20 08:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by native 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What - you still can't be friends? Don't do anything - stay friends - at least you now know their sexual preference, so the friendship may get better.
2006-09-20 08:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by eeaglenest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them how glad you are that they felt comfortable enough to share this with you.. if you're uncomfortable with it.. tell them you're going to have to get used to the idea.. but know that that does not mean they have changed in anyway... they have only unlocked a secret to themselves for you.
2006-09-20 08:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by WifeandMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋