My wife and I had always had a great love life. Adventurous and just a little kinky. She still wants to have it but now she just wants me to climb aboard and wail away. Thats okay sometimes but I like to do other things too. Have any of you changed in the same manner and, if so, what would it take to bring her back around?
2006-09-20 08:15:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We've been married seventeen years. We have five kids but the youngest is 12.
2006-09-20 08:50:30 · update #1
Maybe lighting some candles,a bottle of wine(or whatever ya'll prefer) and some massage oils of some kind.Music too! If she used to like other things before maybe adding some other things like the above will help to put her back in the mood to get kinky again.... Too bad you are already married because my husband never cares one way or the other.I try to tell him what I want or like and it's like I'm talking foreign to him. Now it just does not matter to me. So good luck and I hope it works for you ... Maybe looking for some books too on different things you can do at your local bookstore at the mall.
2006-09-20 08:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by copperfish310 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, how long have you been married? Do you have kids? Are you still courting her? Do you do things to show her you love her that are not sexual? It can be complicated but not desperate. Take her out to a nice quiet dinner, and ask her what makes her feel loved. You might be surprised that sex is nowhere in the list!! That's the way we are. Men are like microwave ovens, the "heat" up quick.... women are like crockpots, it takes us awhile to warm up. We react to everything that has happened through out the day. While guys think about all day and are ready at the drop of a hat, we respond to the missed kiss in the morning, the complaint about the wrong dressing on your sandwich, etc. If it goes on day after day, after day, our desire for sex dims. I'm sorry, I don't know if I'm being clear enough, if I've given you food for thought and you have questions, you can email me.
2006-09-20 15:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by MamaSunshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married just over 2 years now, and I know personally, I go through phases. Sometimes I just have to have it, and take control... and I go through times where I want it, but I let my husband take over... I'll try more adventurous things, and other times I'm happy with plain ol' vanilla... Just keep the communication lines open, ask her (gently) why the change in the bedroom? It could be stress, or other factors too.
Best of luck dear!
2006-09-20 15:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Will you add a detail of how long you have been married? That would have helped me answer the question better! I've been married over ten years; and i can honestly say our sex life has gotten better! You have to be adventurous in married sex; otherwise it gets boring! Talk to her man!! She's waiting for you to!!!
2006-09-20 15:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to just ask her, lets try it a different way, something that will satisfy the both of you. I don't think she will come back around, due to sexual drives changes through the years, exspecially for a woman. So try something you both will enjoy. Have fun!
2006-09-20 15:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married going on 11 yrs., and i know i've gone through alot of changes....for one...i've gone through menopause and that totally changes your sexual desires...i'm trying to get my dr. to give me some meds that will enhance my sexual drive..kind of like a viagra for women??????? This may be one of the things she is going through??? Have you asked her? Or do you know? Anyway...just thought i'd bring that one up?? Good luck................
2006-09-20 16:08:21 · answer #6 · answered by VICTORIA L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, say honey, we have got to start sprucing this stuff up, romance her, do small things, do the dishes, help around the house. Whisper in her ear, what you are going to do to her, say I am going to tear that thing up. just sit and caress her at times, so much so, you are ready to tear each others cloths off. also say go their, express yourself, what you like, and ask her do you like this. or what do you want me to do to please you. We can go on and on about this, but I am sure this is a start.
2006-09-20 15:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋