my ex from 4 years ago has just recently told me on a nite out that he loves me. I feel the same but have one problem he is engaged and has a child he claims he only loves her cause shes his babys mum. Hes still with her but I do believe he loves me but dont no what to do HELP
2006-09-20 08:09:36 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
leave him alone he was drunk
as him again when hes not had a drink
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2006-09-26 01:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by kitthekat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he has some sort of committment problem. Why is he your ex? Think about why you two aren't together. Also he does claim to "love" the person that he is with. Regardless of the reason he rationalizes that love it is still a strong emotion and it does not just disappear. Also if you believe in karma then what prevents him from not leaving you one day as he is going to this young woman. Ultimately it is not your choice, it is his. You should not be the one telling him what to do, he wants you to make his decision for him. He does not want to take responsibility. That can only come back to haunt you in the future, he can lay the blame at your feet if it does not work out for some reason. I would advise just letting him be and advising him when he figures out what he really wants to come find you...if you are still available that is. Remember a strong woman needs a strong man to stand by her side.
2006-09-20 18:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would not let him manipulate you. It sounds as though he wants the best of 2 lives, and I feel you are being used by him. If he loved you so much, he would come clean and not hide anything from you. Because he's going out with you and then going back to his fiance. It's one of these scenarios where someone is going to definitely get hurt, especially mentally, because he's playing with your mind, that's why you're confused.
I am a Born-Again-Christian and I would try and contact a local church that has a good Pastor. Once you put you're trust in Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit will help you make the right decision. But there are so many people in your position, tell him you are going to stand by your morals. You'll soon find him out for what he tells you, don't worry and God Bless You
2006-09-21 06:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by patch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your answer.
He is taken. Doesn't matter if he loves you. He is with her, having a baby with her and obviously something is there for him to want to stay.
Him leaving one girl for another only will show you what he does to her, he will do to you when someone else comes along.
His excuse about the child is not a good excuse. No one ever should stay together just for a child. A child would rather have a broken seperated relationship than live in a broken fake relationship in denile. Get what im saying?
He can love you all he wants but he now needs to stop with the switching and lusting over his feelings and focus on his family he choosed to have and stay with. He is a grown up now where his choices means everything. Not in middle school where his choices are more opt to be forgotten.
2006-09-20 19:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be selfish, your ex has a life now, if that's not the life he wanted then tough sh*t, he shouldn't have got his fiance pregnant should he? Grow up and leave him and his family alone. Try not to ever see him again as obviously you are a temptation he is better off without. Sorry if this isn't what you want to hear but it will be most sensible peoples responce
2006-09-20 08:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a adult and still i understand iv done the same i held a candle for my x for 5 years hell go wiv u get u pregnant and mess u both around get on with yer life and if i was her and found out i would **** the living life out of u so be very carefull cos girls are evil and she could make your life unbar able
2006-09-25 05:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and his family alone, if he loves you why is he not with you... He was out for the night probably trying to sleep with you that's why he used those words. I've been there, you'll only get hurt plus there is a child involved. you want to split that child's family up, then you live with that!!
2006-09-22 07:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T GO THERE!!! if he thought that and was really unhappy he would of left her, but told her he will help out as much as possible with his child, gilr it's a honest no, he's having his cake and eating it, if you dont believe me tell him another bloke has asked you for a date, and seming as your his bit on the side, your goin out for the eving, because you believe the relationship could develop!! bet u he spits his dummy!! try it and see!
2006-09-27 10:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sucks to be in your position. But just keep in mind if you stay involved in his life you will be a step mom. This also means that you will have to deal with her for a long time. It is not easy. Especially if you take him from her. Are you ready to be totally involved? You will be the reason that kid would not have a dad all the time anymore. But love is love. If you are ready to get married then I would say go for it. But if your not ready then let him go.
2006-09-20 08:15:03 · answer #9 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you even considered that all he wants is to spice up his sex life with a bit on the side and he doesn't have enough time for a normal pick up so a sympathetic old girlfriend is his next best idea?
2006-09-21 18:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never ever be in a triangle relationships. these kind are bad bec all parties are hurting. since the other woman in his life do have his baby, you are in a no win position. find someone who can give you 100 % chance at happiness instead of misery.
2006-09-20 11:17:08 · answer #11 · answered by jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋