2006-09-20 08:04:47 · 29 answers · asked by John Archer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
once a month? dude you are lucky.....
2006-09-20 08:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not a real problem, I say that because, your wife is like a lot of other women, they like to be courted, you know, told nice things, given presents from time to time, taken out on a date.
You got to remember, the same technics you used to catch her, is the same you need to keep her. (nothing has changed).
Some men think that, once they are married, the courtship is over and the sex is something they can have anytime, its not true. she needs mental as well as physical stimulation.
If she's not getting it, then she'll lay there until your bussiness is done and go back to clean the house or cooking, or your privilages for sex will be reduced because there maybe a replacement. Because, she now know, that you just don't get it. So, johnny comes along and tell her just what she want and needs to hear and even touches her in all the right places to which you may have forgotten.
Now, you are about 30-38yrs old and does nothing but look at the games and drink beer, while she shops. Johnny shops too. Johnny is on the other row, in the same store, talking to her on the cell phone so they wont be caught, they check out at the same counter, no longer on the cell phone and is briefly speaking while they wait to check out in the same checkout line. A hand shake seals the goodbye in the place of a hug or kiss, just the touch and feel of each other was enough for the moment, with hearts pounding, knowing the wait to be together is not far away.
yeah, keep watching your sports, you will never know johnny, but johnny knows that you are the man who is neglecting his most prized treasury and johnny don't mind tending to the mint.
So, my last words would be:
When sweet polly is in trouble, I am not slow, its hip, hip and away I go.
2006-09-20 15:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by WOODSAK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the first thing I would do is schedule a nice quiet time to have a talk with her. Be honest and open and ask her to do the same. There must be a reason why this has happened, maybe she's tired, or maybe she needs some romance. The only way to find out is to ask her. It may help to show her more attention without expecting sex. Sometimes women may feel that guys only want one thing and don't really care about what she wants or needs.
2006-09-20 15:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by stormywthr64 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her boyfriend, or better yet get yourself a girlfriend.
Sometimes a wife can get to the point of exhaustion, where the act is the last thing on her mind... I suggest trying to help make things a little easier for her around the house. If that doesn't work, try sending the kids off to a sitter and have some "alone" time together.
The one thing that really helped me was cutting her house chores by pitching in.
2006-09-20 15:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by J j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a jerk outside of the bedroom. Act like you actually like her as a person and that her opinion counts and that she is NEEDED by you..in other ways than sex. Look at how you are treating her outside of the bedroom. If she feels negativity outside of it, the last thing she is thinking about is having sex with the same person that makes her feel bad. Now, if your not being a jerk and are a great guy, let her come to you. Don't force the issue of sex. Don't bring it up when your upset that it's only been a month. Let me come to you. Chances are she'll actually feel horny one day and come to you. Oh, and do a load of laundry without telling or asking her ahead of time. or come home from work with something special.......like her favorite cookies now and then. Not something big like an expensive gift...something small that looks like you were thinking about her.
2006-09-20 15:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by Nikigirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of little things you can do to get her excited & thinking about you throughout the day. Try leaving her a sticky note on the mirror saying she's the best thing that's happend to you and that you love her. Leave a card in her car for her to find. Leave her nice voicemails, or call her just to say you were thinking about her. Surprise her with a night out being extra sweet & affectionate. Send her flowers with a love note. Ask her if she needs any help around the house; and then help her! Ask her about her day. Talk about both of your goals for the future. Compliment her on her looks, make her feel pretty & sexy. Surprise her with a planned trip. Tell her exactly how you feel about her............I could go on & on. It's the little things that make us crazy!! Hopefully you'll get some ideas!
2006-09-20 15:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by bcre8ive2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a wife too and have actually done that to my husband. I think something is bothering her like maybe you dont cuddle enough or show enough effection towards her or not tell her you love her enough. or may be she feels that you only get close to her to have sex which will make her not want to but if you show her love and effection for nothing att at all she will notice that you do it for for her. a wife needs to feel loved and needed all the time but not because you want sex because you love her has to be the reason sex is just the plus side to making you wife happy.
Or it might be the fact that there is not enough forplay for her pleasure.
MAKE YOU WIFE HAPPY AND SHE WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY!
2006-09-20 15:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by rain20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat! Great for years and she has reduced interest now. She still wants to but now she wants to wail away, no foreplay or extracurricular. some guys might like that but I want to munch, etc.
It seems like nothing I do brings it back to the way it was but if i go out my to romance her and set the mood like the old days, I have a little luck. Works best during less busy times and when the kids are all out somewhere!
2006-09-20 15:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never withheld sex from my husband and the women that do that confuse me and give females a bad rep. I love to have sex with my husband. However, he crossed the line by going to a strip club twice and getting lap dances. Now for the first time in five years of almost daily sex, he is going to get CUT off. My point being... are you sure you haven't done anythingto piss her off royaly? if not... I don't know.
2006-09-20 17:03:58 · answer #9 · answered by jenlovely01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to sit down and have an open and honest conversation with her. Once a month screams something somewhere is really wrong. It could be mental or physical but you gotta find out before you lose your whole relationship. Good luck, she may be reluctant to talk.
2006-09-20 15:09:47 · answer #10 · answered by luvofxanth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See if maybe since she doesnt want actual sex see if she will accept foreplay favors instead. Maybe you could watch her use a toy and she can watch you rub one out or she could just give your oral and try different lubes and such or you could watch a porno together (not a gross and all freaky one) but a soft core porn one. Girls gone wild works for me but try other areas. Sex isnt just about intercourse! IF shes not game then I feel very sorry for you my man!
2006-09-20 15:10:47 · answer #11 · answered by Kit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋