After you've been with someone for awhile-do they always change? I mean like make alot of promises and tell you just how much they love you and can't live without you,and a year or so later-they act completely different! Not mean-just not the same person you met and fell inlove with!
2006-09-20 08:03:19 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
YES! It drives me nuts. In the beginning you get told the things that the person wants you to hear but after a while they can't keep that act up and their true colors show.
It's "funny" because when my current gf was asking me out I didn't want to get into a relationship at the time. I had been single for over a year and I told her I didn't want to get hurt again. She told me all this bs and now I am seeing how she really is. It really is frustrating but I am sure I have changed in her eyes as well.
2006-09-21 02:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by Scully 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change will happen in any relationship. Everything changes. You and your partner just need to communicate more and work to stay on the same track. Relationships, gay or straight, are not easy and need to be kept in check. As we grow older, and learn, our ideas about life, what we like and dislike and how we view the world around us can change many times.
Try to always remember that the person you are with is still the same person you fell in love with...with just some new "parts" added on. Take time for each other and slow down once in a while. Things in today's world are moving at light speed and you really need to disconnect from it all at times.
Try to share things you know you both like or do something together you haven't done in a long time...take a long drive together, listen to music and explore a new place you have never been together...the magic is still there, you just have to look for it.
2006-09-20 08:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by The Tiki God 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a chemical attraction that occurs in all couples, gay or straight, that lasts around 18 months - this was the subject of a recent study. After that, the sexual attraction fades, and often faults that were previously unnoticed become more obvious to both people. At this point, hopefully you both have good communication skills and will talk through those issues.
No relationship stays in the 'hearts and flowers' period for longer than a year. While there may still be unexpected gifts, flowers brought home, an unexpect kiss - the level does not reach that passionate one that you enjoyed during the early months. Thankfully! I think that level of hormonal activity would kill us if it went on too long.
We also relax our guard a bit once that stage is passed; we feel comfortable enough to go back to old habits - from passing gas to not shaving on a Saturday, to leaving the dirty socks (or trick towels) on the floor beside the bed :-) That's also part of living together.
2006-09-20 08:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything changes. That is the one true thing that stays the same-- no matter what.
If we didn't change, we'd be 30 years old, still laying in a crib being fed from a bottle and pooping our britches.
Change is good.
Now, when you fall in love, it is about lowering your wall to let someone in. It is about chemistry and being in a rush to get naked.
Then after a while, the newness wears off, and if there isn't love and care and unselfishness there to hold you together, then you put your wall back up and go looking for someone else who is "the one." Wash, rinse, repeat.
Right there, is a good reason to stay dressed, until you know a person, until you care what happens to them, even standing up. Until they care about you and your problems. Until you are true friends.
Otherwise, you are going to repeat this scene until you learn that lesson. Real love is worth waiting for, moving slowly, and caring about another's feelings.
Finding a bed-buddy is easy, and boring after a while.
Learn to embrace change, and expect it--it is inevitable.
2006-09-20 08:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well peoople always change.Though sometimes not for the best.Sometimes they have been with you so long that they're finally able to be themselves.They might not always be the person you though they were.I know I've been hurt many times by guys and girls who act one way at the beginning then change into someone different later on.
2006-09-20 08:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by no name 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This does not always happen and I assure you a great relationship will come for you. The thing is humanity is always trying to front when it comes to two people getting together. The best thing is to be open and honest from day 1. Also on a more personal note, don't let your guard down when it comes to dating. If you suspect this sort of thing will happen again then tell your next lover up front that it happened to you and that you don't want it to happen again. Thanks!
2006-09-20 08:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by J.C. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it does not always happen. Those experiences just allow you to better appreciate someone more who will love you the way you need to be.
Sorta like sifting through the trash to get to the treasure.
You will find that person one day. Just dont carry around emotional baggage. Everyone is not the same way, nor will they treat you like others in your past. Just use you past as great reference material.
2006-09-20 08:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I call that the "date face" ... it doesnt always happen.. I think some ppl are true to who they are no matter what or who they are with.. but for the most part ppl have a "date face" and they want ppl to like them so much that they do the bait and switch after about 8 months to a year...
2006-09-20 08:13:58 · answer #8 · answered by RiahWillow 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you first meet someone you have on there best face, because they want people to like them. so after time that face (mask) fades and the real person comes to the surface. People have many layers, and just remember that relationships are hard. And anything worth doing takes time and hard work
Good Luck
2006-09-20 08:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by mariposa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 04:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by schnetter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋