I am in highschool and I'm trying to look to the future. I make good grades, was tested gifted, but I don't plan to attend a college. Any family or friends will be mad and/or disappointed with my decision. But isn't my future? I get long talks all the time about how college is right for me, but I know that it's not. How do I tell them I'm not going and that is it?
2006-09-20 08:02:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's not like I don't know how life really is. I have 3 younger siblings, and more on the way. My father owns his own motorcycle business, where I have worked everyday for ten years. I take care of my younger siblings, work, do school work, and do almost all of the housework. I know what real life is like, but I don't like school, and I won't ever go to college, how do I make them see that?
2006-09-20 08:13:24 · update #1
I could get a scholarship, I have good enough grades, and I have the money for books, I just don't want to go!
2006-09-20 08:15:39 · update #2
Hi, First of all no one can control your future , only God knows what is in store for you. But you would be better off in this life with either some college or a tecnical school, life is much harder than you think, maybe the reason you don't want to go to college is because you fell like you are being pushed into going. So here is my suggestion pray, pray and keep praying to God to show you what he wants for you, then and only then will you know what is the right thing to do. If you don't go to church, start going you will find the peace and the answers you seek for your future. I'll say a prayer that you will pray and your prayers will be answered, because GOD is always in control not anyone else. think and pray . You will get your answer. God Bless and good Luck.
2006-09-20 08:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by sunshinerosered1234 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing. I was always at the top of my class and even got a full tuition scholarship to college. I went through the first year and got 4.0 both semesters. But I wasn't doing well making friends and socializing. When my second year started I went back for a week before quitting. I felt I needed to experience life in the real world. It wasn't easy. Luckily I was a certified nurse's aid and was able to get a decent paying job. But I built up debt and didn't take care of myself like I should have. Now that I am married and about to have a second child I can see that I really do need a college degree. I want my kids to have the money to go to college and I want my husband and I to be able to retire at a decent age, and the only way to do both is to have a high paying job (or work tons of overtime at a low paying job.)
If I had stayed in college I wouldn't be having to figure out where to get the tuition for online or night classes now. I could have had a degree at age 22 and now I have to raise a family, take care of my home and go to school. Another reason I want to go back to school is because I want my father to see one of his children graduate from college before he dies, I want him to be proud of me, even though I thought that didn't matter 10 years ago when I quit school.
I'm not saying you have to go to college, but maybe you should consider it. This is an ideal time in your life. You don't have a family yet and you can be free to enjoy yourself while you get your education. If you have the brains to excel, then don't hold yourself back without thinking it through completely.
2006-09-20 08:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by S. O. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps the best course of action is to try and arrive at a compromise. Consider taking one year off after you complete high school. During this time you will be able to experience what life is really like. Be sure that you have a job during this time in order to get the required exposure. At the end of the year you will have the option to continue your life as it is or enter college. At least your parents won't be able to say that you didn't give the idea fair consideration.
2006-09-20 08:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by Letsee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be upfront & honest with them about your feelings. There is nothing wrong with taking a year or so off, by then you'll know better if college is for you. Just make sure that you're deciding not to go to college because you really don't want to go, not because everyone else wants you to go. College will be much easier when you're younger than if you put it off for 5 yrs or so...
2006-09-20 08:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by jamieinreno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your decision not to go but when you realize how hard it is to make a decent living without a college degree you will probably go anyway will you will just have wasted several years. Good Luck!!!!
2006-09-20 08:08:22 · answer #5 · answered by dreamgirl4myboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that's really sad mostly because ur doing well..but of course they can make u go to college..think about it again though!=)good luck in life!
2006-09-20 09:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by Jo-anne 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are blessed to have a family that can afford to send you and you would be crazy not to go.
2006-09-20 08:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋