my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 3 years now, and we are living together..well he lives in my house with me...i guess you can say he pushed and pushed me and i'm tired of him being an azzhole and treating me like im nothing, making me basically his slave and ATM...i just can't take it anymore, i tried to tell him it was over and he needs to leave, hell he can take my car ill just get a new one..but won't ! someone help me please
2006-09-20 08:02:01 · 25 answers · asked by thumper092386 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Call the police, get a lawyer, change the locks, get a big mean dog, and get a boyfriend that's larger then he is and is a member of the NRA. That should about do it.
2006-09-20 08:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you aren't with MY ex?!? I had to make finally give up on being able to stay in my home and ended up moving back in with my parents for a year or so until I felt comfortable about his not coming around anymore before moving out again on my own. Ofcourse, we lived in an apartment so it was a lot easier. If you live in a house I'd say have the police give him a restraining order and an eviction notice and also ask that he be escorted when packing his things. It may also help to get a big dog or some sort of security system so that you feel safe until all of this has blown over. Best of luck!
2006-09-20 08:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could.........
1. Stop, cleaning up after him and giving him money. Go out with your friends instead.
2. Tell him he is hung like a chipmunk. If that doesn't work, tell his friends he is.
3. Ask his mother/ family for help getting him out. That should be embarrassing to him and maybe give him a place to move to.
4. Find a big biker dude to be you're boyfriend and get rid of him. It may be unpleasant but as long as you put it on the table with the biker dude in the beginning it should work out. He sounds like the kind of guy that would be afraid and run.
5. Stop being nice to him..... always. Tell him you don't want him and that he's a looser that can't make it on his own.
6. Change the locks or move without telling or inviting him.
7. Start kickboxing classes
8. Just slip out the back Jack, make a new plan Stan, don't need to be coy Roy, just get yourself free. Hop on the bus Gus don't need to discuss much just drop of the key Lee and get yourself free!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-20 08:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by jeffro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is physically pushing you around that can be physical abuse. If he is treating you like "nothing" that might be emotional abuse.
Go to your local county court house and ask where to pick up a restraining order packet. They are usually free. Filing these are usually free too. Fill out the paperwork, following instructions. Within a week (or less) you should have an order and will have to serve your boyfriend with that order to make it legal. Then he has to leave the home and stay away from you.
People are usually around to help with this.. it is usually called a restraining order clinic or something like that.
have a good one! Peg
2006-09-20 08:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by Peggy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having the EXACT same problem right now. I really feel for your situation, because I fully know what you are experiencing... right down to him using my car, and being his personal ATM.
I wish I had some good advice to offer, other than just be incredibly strong for yourself and be rid of him. I wish I could take my own advice as well as I give it, but I know it's always easier to give advice than to follow it yourself.
Know you aren't alone. I am learning that there are a lot of men that take advantage of women like us. Women that are so nice to provide and make their lives easier just for the sake that we care for them.
I truly believe this is becoming a more prominent behavior in men... and both you and I need to at the very least set an example for other women, and show them that we can be strong, we can get rid of someone who treats us badly.
I almost wish I could be there for you... just so we can be strong together, but know that I will be thinking of you as I go through exactly what you are going through... and I hope BOTH of us will get determined enough to do the right thing soon.
2006-09-20 08:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get a lawyer .. AND I would call the police and sign papers to have him forced to be a certain distance from you. Also, when he is not around during the day .. you can have a friend of yours , or a locksmith change the locks on your doors and if he starts pounding on the doors, or windows.., Call 911 right away and tell them you have an intruder. It is time to look out for YOURSELF . Don't let him control you !! Good Luck ! :)
2006-09-20 08:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get an eviction notice from the courts and have the local sherrif's dept or constable's office serve him and escort him out
*since he has been living with you for so long, he may be considered a tenant of yours which is why I recommend you go through the legal system. If he assaults you or threatens you, get a restraining order to have him moved out right away.
2006-09-20 08:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jim T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he has by a certain date to move out. If he's not out by that date, move his stuff outside the door and change the locks and wait inside for him to get there. If you just leave his stuff outside you might be liable for it if anything is stolen. You need to make sure and tell him the consequences if he doesn't have his stuff out by that date, so he can't say you didn't tell him. Better yet hand him a handwritten note with your signature on it. Keep a copy for yourself.
2006-09-20 08:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a lawyer and have them send him a letter, as to when he has to be out, and if he is not gone on that date, have the police remove him, you have to be firm. and the day he is to move have all of your locks changed, even your car locks. He is not taking you serious. He can only make you his slave, if you let him. People only do to you, or anyone else, what you let them do to you, Take back your life!!
2006-09-20 08:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the lock on your door and move his belongings outside of the front yard with a note that said "GET OUT"
2006-09-20 08:03:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋