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new relationship, divorced and now happy with someone that I think I trust but he did cheat in his previous marriage. he tells me everything, things I may not want to hear but he says this relationship is worth the world to him and he wants no secrets, I honestly trust him but once a cheater "alwyaws a cheater" ......
what do you think??
im confused i dont want to have the ugly feeling but I believe it may come up on occasion in the future, im just preparing myself!!!

2006-09-20 08:00:34 · 13 answers · asked by cmt1162 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

13 answers

In life it is my belief that the only person we can truly trust is ourselves ,and in making the choice to trust in own abilities whatever the situation .... there is no more reason to fear and life can be enjoyed with whoever makes you feel good

2006-09-20 09:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by pussin boots 3 · 0 0

Every relationship will hit rough spots, even the greatest, and this guys track record isn't exactly wonderful with that, if he cheated before. Maybe everything is great now because the relationship is still new, hasn't encountered the problems that arise after being in a relationship for a long time, but if problems arise and his needs do not get met, I wouldn't trust him not to cheat again.

2006-09-20 15:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by jen 4 · 0 0

Every relationship is different. You will have to let him know that yes it will bother you and that you need him to be OK discussing it with you when ever you need him to. As long as the lines of communication are open and you are both honest and trusting then your relationship will be fine. Just don't jump to conclusions when he is just a few mins late getting home. You have to at least trust him some.

2006-09-20 15:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by tattooed_te_leigh 2 · 0 0

I believe it depends on who you are with and who you are, I cheated on my husband with my now fiance I will NEVER EVER cheat on him because we have a great relationship we are honest about our feelings. You can make it work if you want. Don't believe once and cheater always a cheater. Everybody is different.

2006-09-20 15:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 0 0

If you have that gut feeling then I would go with it and find a new guy. I firmly believe that once a cheater always a cheater and I also trust my gut before my heart.

2006-09-20 15:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0 0

If you cheat on your spouse, there is a reason. You are lacking something at home. If he truly loves you, and you have an honest relationship, you should have nothing to worry about. Just keep the lines of communication open.

2006-09-20 15:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by tear streaked angel 2 · 1 0

Good to keep on your toes. You need to decide if that bothers you are not. I you decide that it does not and you trust him than you can not have second thoughts about it. You should never enter it in your mind. If you don't think that you can let it go and always think about him cheating than you need to tell him that is bothers you and it might not work out. Talk to him and tell you how you feel.

2006-09-20 15:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by Lori K 3 · 0 0

This is a difficult one. He says that he cheated in his previous marriage, what is to stop him from doing it again. On the other hand he might be sincere. I would very reluctanty say give him a fair chance.

2006-09-20 15:38:12 · answer #8 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0 0

i would go slow - i dated someone that cheated also, but he said it was because his wife cheated first - i did have trust issues with this guy, but it was because he acted untrustworthy - you can only hope your guy has learned his lesson - at least he is being honest with you - go in with your eyes open & try to enjoy - if you become too suspicious or paranoid you should end it though - it won't be worth the drama or stress.

2006-09-20 16:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by livetall1 4 · 0 0

why don't just give him a chance..and maybe ask for signs if he's really stick to his promise or just to his as*. sometimes, boys are true to their heart, but consequences make them not, so it's nt their fault after all.

try to read his moves: and then learn to know his actions and reactions, in this way you'll be safe in knowing his motives and intentions. but don't be too suspicious, this might lead to a n0t-so-good relationship.

2006-09-20 15:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by _cries_ 2 · 0 0

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