I have just recently got my fiance pregnant and we plan to marry very soon. I just moved out of my parents house shorter than a month ago. I am 19 and the girl I plan to marry is 18. How do I break the news to them about the baby and the marriage without having them freakout. Keep in mind...we have already moved in together (for not that long), I already have the ring, we have a good doctor and medicade to take care of us. Give me your opinions please.
2006-09-20 07:59:41 · 18 answers · asked by limpkornrock7 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
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2006-09-20 08:07:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no easy way out, so just tell them after dinner or something. but make sure you tell them u are getting married first. otherwise double shock.
also it may help if you have your life plans sorted out and discussed with them so they know you have targets, and have control of your life, rather than will live off them until 40.....
do you have a job/plenty money. that will come into the picture later. just make ur plans for the future, and plan it out. dont let the stress in between get to your relationship and family. u have helluve responsibility now. This will measure you as a man, or leave you a gay........keep the faith.
and last not least.....congratulations.... i think. though i still think u are too bloody young..........
2006-09-20 08:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have you life together pretty well. Just be upfront & honest with them. Invite them over for dinner & just tell them. Don't be hurt if they don't take the news that well, that's just how parents are. Just let them know that you're being upfront & honest because that's how you want them to be with you. Sometimes it helps to hear the opinions of your family, they might come up with some ideas to make this next phase of your life easier. But if you don't like what their saying, don't throw them out & not speak with them- you're going to need their help when the baby is born. Just make sure you both are on the same page, be honest & let them know you appreciate their input even though you've already made your decision. Congrats & good luck!
2006-09-20 08:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by jamieinreno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Christmas is a few months away, you can take and make a sock for The baby, and hang it with the rest of them, then invite them over so that they can see it, She will only be about 4 months or so around that time, and that is not too late to tell them. Just tell them that you wanted to make sure that everything was okay in the pregnancy before you told anybody.. that is what we did.. good luck
2006-09-20 08:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are adults (albeit young ones) and you do already live together and are planning to get married...I see no reason why they would freak out (then again, I don't know your parents). Just be honest and get RIGHT to the point...no sense prolonging it. If you 2 are happy about the baby, try to put a positive spin on it.
Good luck!
2006-09-20 08:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by Trixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree about the ULTRASOUND...BUT why don't you and your "fiancee" invite all 4 gparents to be over for dinner...have baby carrots, baby steak's...ALL BABY size food's,then after dinner be like we have a surprise...then show them the ultrasound (and sometimes you can get extra printout's) If you do get "extra" ultrasound pic's give each couple a card (like a grandparents card) and be like here is something for you, we hope you are as excited as we are!! But DON'T go off and get married without them and don't wait tooooo long. Don't worry,you 2 may be young but sound's like you both have your head's screwed on right,and your financial obligation's taken care of!! Good luck to you & your Fiancee!!
2006-09-20 08:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by babyN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys look like you have things a little under control. You already have a place and plan to get married. Just tell them, they may get mad but once the baby gets here everything will be forgotten!!
2006-09-20 08:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by shaqmc21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the relationship you have with your families.
If you want to focus on wedding now and announce it after that I think it may be an easier pill to swallow. Heck I would be tempted to announce it at my reception.
Make sure that once you tell someone you bring both sets of parents together and share your honest feelings with them. All of the other suggestions posted look like great ideas too.
2006-09-20 08:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id wait until the ultrasound and post them a picture with "to grandad and granma see u soon" on it. How can they not melt when they see that! Good luck
2006-09-20 08:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give them a gift like a baby bottle or blanket with a note that says something like this here's a bottle for to feed or a blanket to keep your grandchild warm, if we forget to pack one & if thay ask why you giveing them this type of gift tell were have a baby
2006-09-20 08:09:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋