I'm married, but recently found myself in love with someone else, I have tried desperately to forget this person...........until now I have or at least I thought I had a solid marriage. What can I do to forget this person? I want to stay in this marriage.........but I just can't get him out of my mind.............
2006-09-20 07:48:38 · 18 answers · asked by T 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jashon d
If I were your wife, I would have left you along time ago for anyone else!!!!!!
lucky for you I'm not..............
2006-09-20 08:29:39 · update #1
Step back and away from this guy. Have absolutely no contact with him. Then focus completely on your marriage. What did you get from the other man that you are lacking from your husband? Is it emotional support, the fun of dating, sex, affection? Sit down with your husband and have both of your make a list of your top three emotional needs. Then discuss ways that you can both meet each other's needs better. Not only will this help you discover what you are lacking in your marriage, doing this with your husband will bring you both closer. You both need to go back to when you first starting to fall in love with each other and remember what each of you fulfilled in each other. You can fall back in love with your husband, but you'll have to evaluate what exactly you are both lacking.
2006-09-20 07:59:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you need to ask do you love your husband? If not then there is no reason to stay in the relationship. If you do stay then there will be nothing but problems later and it will eventually lead to divorce anyway. If you truly love your husband then it shouldn't be that hard to get this person out of your mind. I think that you should sit and find out what is bothering you in your marriage that you would doubt it. If there are any kids in the marriage then don't stay together because of them it will only put stress on them they know more that what you think they do. they can feel the stress between you and your husband.
2006-09-20 07:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to do whatever it takes to beak all contact with this man. If he's at your job you need to find another job. If he's in your class, drop the class and never speak to him again. Even if you run into him in public ignore him. Let him think you're a *****. In the long run it doesn't matter. What's important is your marriage. Then, you and your husband need to take some time on each other. Spend the weekend at home just the two of you and have a romantic dinner and a bubble bath. Get reacquainted. Find your passion again. Maybe if you can bring back that spark you wont even remember old whats-his-name.
2006-09-20 07:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out why you like this other person rather than your husband. is it because he treats you better more romantic, listens to you or just emotionally clicks better. Once you figure this out then talk with your husband about correcting that issue/issues. Don't tell him that you love someone else since you want your marriage to work. Try to correct the lost in your marriage first, telling him that you love someone else will hurt him early and is not needed.
2006-09-20 07:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by latinoheat131 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself one very important question. Is your family and marriage worth an indescretion? If you have any doubts one way or the other then it is time for some soul searching. A person should be happy in their life if you are unhappy then maybe it is time to venture to another place with another person but before you do be really sure that this person is who you think they are and that you are not seeing them through rose colored glasses.
2006-09-20 07:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by osu2720@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide what you want...what you REALLY want, and know that either way it's not going to be easy. It's not supposed to be easy! Know the consequences of each decision, then follow your heart and stick with your decision. And I don't know your situation, but marriage is not a joke...promises are made and meant to be honored. When you said I do, you took a lot upon you...I say hold true to your promise, and this trial of your love will make it stronger in the end. And I feel your pain...only time will heal it.
2006-09-20 07:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by Meghan L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you aren't really in love with this person but rather with their behavior...maybe they paid attention to you, complimented you . Something you were lacking in your current relationship. Whatever it was...take a step back and I'm sure you can identify it. First of all you need to stop seeing this person (if you haven't already) avoid any and all contact.
Remember what made you fall in love with your partner to begin with. I'm sure there's still something there all you need to do is reignite the flame.
2006-09-20 07:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably just have a little crush. It will pass with time.
If you want to stay in your marriage, cut off contact with the person and consider going to personal counseling.
2006-09-20 07:51:45 · answer #8 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just break every contact with the new one,don`t go to places where you have been together,avoid him as much as possible...go out with your husband ,improve your relationship,do something new...just don`t let the relationship with your husband get boring,cause this is mostly the reason why we beginn to look for someone else,when we aren`t really happy about our relationship...change things in your life,do anything new,just don`t cheat on your husband...how would you feel if he was in this situation,I don`t think you would find it ok...just forget the other one.if you love your husband ,it shouldn`t be very hard...
2006-09-20 07:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by donatella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that you are in love with other person but you may be remembring him due to some unknown resons which you confuse with love. You carry on with you normal life , try to be with you huby as much more as you can keep rest of the time got yourself involved in other things which you are interested in
2006-09-20 07:57:50 · answer #10 · answered by soofi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋