All of our friends and family are just crazy about each of us as individuals. They also realize that we are roommates and best friends of many years. However, many of them probably suspect more but would never verbalize it. Should I or is it important to reveal the truth to others. We (he and I are both men) have some varying opinions and would like input. It is quite irritating to be around others and act as if we're not romantically involved. Not that we would display romance, but it would be nice to sit next to each other and act as a couple rather than feel we have to keep our distance at family functions, etc.
2006-09-20 07:42:25 · 4 answers · asked by Efrain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Obviously, you're family will think it's wrong.
If you know it's wrong then give it up.
2006-09-20 07:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by PeeWee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice answer, Aqua. Yes, I'm being sarcastic.
This is a complex issue. You need to guess how your family is going to react. Some families are so bigotted that they will react very poorly.
I'm guessing that at least some of your family already knows, or strongly suspects. But until you say something, they're giving you the privacy you seem to want.
If you think your family is going to act badly, then you have to decide if you can handle their reaction.
Ultimately, I think you need to tell everyone. I'd start with a quiet conversation with the person or people you feel will be most positive, tell them you're going to tell everyone, but that you want to do it yourself.
Make sure your parents aren't the last ones you talk to!
I would admit up front that you know your lifestyle is controversial, and that you understand some people think it's wrong. But this is how it is, and you hope they can be cool with it.
2006-09-20 07:51:19 · answer #2 · answered by jplrvflyer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should wait any longer to tell your families and friends... they're suspecting you two are love birds and just let them know the "secret" now. It's not going to change the fact that you guys are a couple, your families and friends will have to accept the truth and if they love you... they should love who you love as well.
Why were you afraid of telling them? Is it because they expect you to be attractive to a woman instead of another man? If so, be patient and go to the friend or family member who's more accepting of this situation... tell them you and him are together and you're tire of hiding any longer. They'll hint everyone else... then wait for a little while then break the news to everybody. That way you don't shock anyone and give them a heart attact. From what I see, they already got the hint... just be brave and take it to the next level. Tell them and get their blessing, or at lease get it out of your chest so you don't have to hide any longer.
2006-09-20 07:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by xp office 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only ones you should tell is your Mom and Dad. They may suspect already, and the others well, I don"t think you have to say anything about it. And if you need to be by each other, for family functions do so, if one does not like it, that is their problem. It is almost like you want to have a sign, that says. "I am okay, I am not going to bother you." (smile) some of us are so close minded. Free yourself!!
2006-09-20 07:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋