what happen if two loosers get married?

Question

she is 28 year old girl virgin. not the most pretty,very shy,doesnt have drive license jet, and never had a boy friend in her life. this is her first one.
And he is a 34 year old ugly fat looser .and is getting divorse right now of his first marriage, he does'nt have any friends, because is a computer geek. he is really boring and and a big time nerd, what hapend is two very similar people get together?
She is my cousin and we are telling her to wait she can find somebody better, but I think she is desperate, because is the first guy interserted on her ,in her life and all her friends are married with kids, and she feels alone.
I also belive that two very diferent people complement eachother.
like somedody very quiet. need somedody cheerful and alive, so like that .they give each other what they need,
but when two people almost exactly the same get together they tend two fight. Well... tellme what do you think??

Answer 1

They'll be happy for awhile and then will eventually divorce.

Answer 2

Regarding people who are the same versus opposites, marriages where the couples share the same core, fundamental beliefs do better, statistically, than marriages where there are core, fundamental differences. There is a saying I once heard... opposites attract, but it is the similarities that keep them together. My husband is an extrovert, very charismatic and charming. I'm the opposite. I was very attracted to this when I first met him. Yet ultimately, we discovered we had very little disagreement over the important things in life.

Let your cousin decide what is right for herself. She's an adult and if she feels that she wants someone who is very similar to herself, let her make that decision. Maybe she feels comfortable in a way she wouldn't with someone who is opposite.

Answer 3

First off, I think you're 12 because your spelling is pretty bad. And I think a marriage is as good as they make it. People tend to get tired of people. I know I do. So it all matters how long they can stick it out together and make the best of all their blessings. At least they don't have to spend money or ask anyone out or go through a whole buch of nonsense just to get some sex, which is over-rated and getting played out by Entertainment!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

Well she should be able to decide what she wants until this time. And she needs to make sure no one take advantage of her only because she is old now and not married still. Also be careful with the guy why he is getting divorce. What is causing the first relationship not to work. Other things doesn't matters.

Answer 5

First, I don't think you should call your cousin a loser.

Second, I don't think you have a right to interfer if she's happy.

Third, opposites aren't always the best thing in a relationship.

Fourth, she's 28. She's old enough to make her own decisions and her own mistakes. Maybe people have been sticking there noses into her life too much already.

Answer 6

I believe a loser is only someone who'd choose to be that way. No one should call the other a loser because then you'd become one for the selfishness that you pro tray on others. If you could find it in your heart that these two might actually like each other, than leave it alone. If they weren't meant to be, they'll know it. It seems like you're jealous of them or that you're the one that's lonely. I for myself am not an ugly girl, beautiful outside as well as inside my heart. I am one they'll cry when you cry and laugh when you laugh. So, please respect others as you would want others to do for you!!!

Answer 7

How nice of you to deem your cousin a "loser". It's a wonder she's 28 and never had a date. Leave her alone. If she found someone that makes her happy, then she deserves that happiness. Who gave you permission to judge? Are you the most prettiest of people? Are you married? Those who live in glass houses should not throw stones honey.

Answer 8

The way I see it is, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. What you find appalling, may be beautiful to someone else. Maybe he's not your type, but maybe your cousins type. Maybe she is latching onto someone because her biological clock is ticking, but she needs to do what makes her happy. She can't worry about what you think or anyone else for that matter because, it's not important. You don't have to wake up to him everyday, she does. So, let cousin do what she thinks is right. Sure, you're just trying to watch out for her, but she needs to make her own mistakes, as do we all. :)

PS: My husband and I of 18.5 years are complete opposites and yes, it's very trying, but I also think that's what keeps us going. It never gets dull.

Answer 9

Well...if you thought about this earlier you can give her a make over and have some other guy try and pick her up. She seems happy with this guy and maybe it will open a door to something else. I hate to tell you this but you gotta let her make her own mistakes.

Answer 10

I think that if she is 28, then she is old enough to make her own decisions. You can choose to be there to support her in anything she wants to do, or not, that is your choice, but she does have a right to live her own life as she chooses, and you don't have any right to think otherwise.

Answer 11

they definitely should not get married, unless they knew each other for a long time and they definitely love each other. But i doubt it, your cousin should go out and meet other people before settling on whatever she found first.