okay, my boyfriend and i have been living together for 6 months and have been together for over a year now. we lived in his grandmothers efficentcy house for about 4 months, and she just recently sold her house so we have had to move out. on the move out day, we stayed up until 5 am cleaning the house, we are now moved, and its been 4 days and today we heard from his mom and she stared yelling at my boyfriend about how dirty the house is...and she is going to meet us on saturday at his grandmothers house to show us how to clean. im mostly upset becuz his grandma got his mother involved n his mother is being a total ***** from hell. i need help on how to deal with this.
2006-09-20 07:30:45 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tell that ***** off!
2006-09-20 07:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by Enthusiast 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is always the reason that you should always take pictures of the place you are moving into before you move all your furniture and household items in. Did you leave the house more dirty than when you move in, or is his Mom just extra stressed because of her Mom having to sell the house and move? There are a lot of factors to consider. If you and your boyfriend feel that you and he left the house clean when you moved out, he needs to tell his mother this and that should be the end of it. If you were not the neatest, when you left you can discuss this with her. If you are both over eighteen, you are considered to be adults and should not have to be subjected to lessons on cleaning from his Mom. When I rented apartments years ago, before owning my own home, I would be very sure that the place would be cleaner when I moved out than when I moved in, just so there would be no problems. Why did your boyfriends grandmother get her daughter involved? Is she overwhelmed and stressed also?? It is probably very difficult for both of these women at this time. Have your boyfriend handle this, he is her son and should be intervening at this point, and she should not be yelling at him. This is no help to anyone. Good luck and I hope this works out well for all.
2006-09-20 07:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it personal. Just see this as a *job* that both of you are responsible. Do as what you're told. Maybe there are something you've overlooked. Finish with it and all will be happy.
Don't leave your boyfriend alone, for better or for worse.
2006-09-20 07:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by Timeless - watcher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do, and keep your boyfriend, is be respectful. if you can't do that, then just don't be there when she comes. She is HIS grandmom and he has to deal with her, you don't.
2006-09-20 07:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by feefee3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋