2006-09-20 07:28:43 · 20 answers · asked by bongomeye 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Both parents interfere. my MIL is very suspicious and very possessive of her son ( my hubby) questions everything about my parents. My mother is over eager to solve problems, the two mothers do not get along.
2006-09-20 07:36:21 · update #1
I'm in the same situation. You need to sit down and calmly tell them that you're married and that this is the person you're deeply in love with and that you've chosen to spend the rest of your life with. Tell them that you know they mean well, but that you're an adult and they need to accept and recognize that. Tell them that it's putting a strain on your marriage and it's not fair to you and your spouse. Make sure they know that you love them and that you don't want them out of your life forever, and gently remind them of your conversation whenever they start butting in again. Good luck!
2006-09-20 07:33:53 · answer #1 · answered by brainy_blonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The day the government started to issue Marriage licenses to those getting married by a justice of the peace and not man of the cloth the term marriage stopped being solely a religious ceremony. And they day the church stood back and let that happy they agree with it. Marriage is a legal contract NOT an holly ceremony any more. If it still was holly we would not have pernups. and you could not get a divorce because you don't like the way they picked at their toes in the evenings. The divorce proceedings would be over seen by a Mister not a judge. A judge is a government employee-- making it a government contract. And the churches allowed that. Lets face it there are many laws that have to do with marriage. That is government interfering. When yo have people like the Kardasians and the bachelor making a mockery out of the Man- woman marriage for Entertainment value can we really stand and say this is such a holly institution any more? IF people are unwilling to defend it in those cases, then why should I hear them when they want to deny others the right to marry. Remember is was not that long ago that this same argument was used to keep different races from marring. Turn on The TV and look at the state of this all so holly union.
2016-03-17 23:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want your marriage to survive move as far away from your parents as you possibly can. If you can't move out of town then move to the other side of town. Change your phone number, screen your calls and use Caller ID. Insist that your parents call first before coming over. You must safeguard your relationship just as you would safeguard your own child from a predator. The only reason your parents are interferring with your marriage is because you are allowing it to happen. Marriage is hard work but worth working hard for. Good luck!
2006-09-20 07:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by bluemustang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a typical case. it is every where.
The people who want to get married also need to understand the feeling of their parents.
But parents must not force any thing on the young couple.
Parents should be only helpful.
Similarly young people should not do anything stupid that their parents also be sad with them.
2006-09-20 15:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by cookiedada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whose parents your or your spouse's???
Tell them to back off they are interfering with your relationship with your spouse. They may be a bit offended by that, but the other solution is more drastic.
2006-09-20 07:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by g m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend reading the book "Boundaries in Marriage" by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. I would also suggest getting to a marriage counselor for assistance.
2006-09-21 12:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, does your husband not side with you when it comes to the conflict with your MIL? He needs to support you, otherwise it's going to be a big mess if you are pitted against both of them. While it's nice to have MIL's approval, it is not absolutely necessary as long as both partners work together on this. Only he can curb her unreasonable behavior.
2006-09-20 07:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is part of the reason my husband left me. You should express your concerns. If you don't want to end like me than tell them how you feel and maybe you could set ground rules for the in-laws.
2006-09-20 07:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anna L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep them away from your life. both of u go on trip for few days dont bring the discussion about them at all. talk anything else. listen to elders. not necessary to put into practical . just relax before talking anything. be silent when arguments arise..
2006-09-20 08:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the parents house and move away to have your own. If you live with the parents then you live under their rules.
If they live with you in your house, kick them out
2006-09-21 22:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by nice guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋